Welcome to the Romance Help Guide for Men.

Let’s face it, if you’re an average, hot-blooded, heterosexual human being with a penis, chances are that you crave attention from the opposite sex. Whether it’s a deep and meaningful romantic relationship you want, or simply down and dirty animalistic sex, there are certain traits that SHE will be looking for- Physical, Emotional, and yes... Sexual. This manual is all about turning yourself into the Perfect Male.

Is there really such a thing as the "Perfect Male"? Not really. But with a little work, a little self-improvement, a little sexual expertise, you can become pretty damn close to perfect… at least in HER eyes.

These pages contain a wealth of tips, suggestions, techniques, and plans… all designed to transform you into the ideal man of her dreams. A stud, a lovegod, a sexual dynamo… call it what you will. We won’t waste your time discussing the vast differences between men and women, or analyzing the psychological and metaphysical aspects of the cosmos that mold the sexes. If you’re searching for those kinds of answers, go read “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. Our manual is a little more practical. We offer simple and helpful facts that WILL turn you into a better lover… a better man. Immediately.

In assembling this manual, we have researched over 100 sources of sexual data! From books on male sexuality to self-help gurus to renowned sex therapists…. we’ve included ONLY THE BEST AND MOST USEFUL INFORMATION. Whether you’re a novice in the art of love or a seasoned veteran, there’s something for every man here. The “secrets” we share aren’t as mysterious as they sound.There’s a lot of stuff included here that you probably already know. But we’re confident that we’ve included some eye-opening tidbits that will surprise and enlighten you. Male Secrets that will only enhance your lovelife, your sexlife… your life in general.

We'll tell you how to improve yourself (including ALL of the Penis Enlargement secrets that you find on those other sites!), how to meet and talk to women, how to seduce them, how to pleasure them in ways you never thought possible, how to pleasure YOURSELF in ways you never thought possible! It’s all here, along with equally useful information on sexual health, energy and endurance. So let’s get started. We’ve broken this handbook down into Seven Sections, but feel free to skip around and view any content that you wish. Also, feel free to PRINT OUT whichever sections of the manual you like.

You’ve got everything you could possibly need now. It may not happen overnight, but believe us when we say: NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE, YOU CAN MASTER THE MALE SECRETS THAT WILL BRING YOU GREAT HAPPINESS… SEXUAL AND OTHERWISE.

I. Achieving Sexual Power

• Good Health

Certain foods may also be useful in improving certain symptoms of sexual dysfunction such as premature ejaculation and impotence:

Premature ejaculation – Recent studies have shown that the higher the blood histamine level, the quicker the ejaculation. Calcium and the amino acid Methionine lower blood histamine and may therefore be helpful.

Impotence - Impotence in men has often been linked with deficiencies in trace minerals such as Magnesium, or in particular, Zinc. Zinc is vitally important to the male reproductive system; it is required for production of testosterone and proper functioning of the prostate gland
In addition, men who have difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection may want to eat foods that are rich in L-arginine.This amino acid, found in protein foods such as chicken, beef and turkey, contributes to the production of nitric oxide, which controls blood flow for penile erection. However, a note of caution: foods that contain high levels of L-arginine are NOT recommended for anyone who has the herpes virus, as these foods have been shown to hasten an outbreak of herpes.

Foods to avoid:
Needless to say, there are also some nutrients that are counterproductive to a good love life, such as excessive alcohol and caffeine, which constrict blood vessels and impair circulation vital for sexual functioning. And other factors, such as nicotine from cigarette smoking and the use of certain medications may also impede sexual performance.

As far as your diet, stay away from sugar, food additives, preservatives and processed food.This means no chocolate, soft drinks, candy, coffee, frozen dinners, NutraSweet, dougnuts, pastries, and generally anything that you know isn’t good for you!

• Proper Diet

Good sexual health begins right here… with the food that you put into your body. Your diet is the biggest factor in determining both your energy level and your sexual performance.

So what then are the best foods for sexual energy? Here is the premium list, broken down by the nutrients that they contain.
Best foods for sexual functioning:

Vitamin B1 - Beans, peas, lentils, raw nuts, yogurt, pork, brown rice, whole grain flour.

Vitamin B3 (niacin) - brewer’s yeast, peanuts, swordfish, beets, salmon, tuna, pork.

Vitamin B6 - (pyridoxine) - Sunflower seeds, tuna, bananas, eggs, carrots, avocados, carrots, lentils, shrimp.

Folic acid - green leafy vegetables, citrus fruits, cheese, tuna, salmon, chick peas, lentils.

Vitamin C - citrus fruits, tomatoes, green leafy vegetables.

Vitamin E - nuts, seeds, wheat germ, egg yolks, spinach, oils.

Beta carotene ( a form of vitamin A) - Yellow and red fruits and vegetables.

Zinc - oysters, beans, peas, lentils, spinach, sunflower seeds, pumpkin, beef, turkey, pork, molasses.

Selenium - yeast, whole grains

• Vitamins, Herbs

Your overall sexual health can be significantly enhanced by specific vitamins, herbs and supplements which you should add to your daily diet, if you’re not already getting sufficient amounts in the food you take in. Not only will they provide you with extraordinary energy, they can greatly enhance your sex drive and pump up your sensual passion.

It is always best to purchase "A" grade supplements. You will pay a little more, but the results are noticeably better (and better for you) than cheap "bargain-brand" supplements.

Vitamins to be taken daily for energy:
* 2,000 mg of vitamin C 2 or 3 times a day
* 30 mg of zinc
* 10,000 units (IU) of mixed carotenoids.
* 100 mg of vitamin A
* 200 mg of Magnesium
* 80 mg of coenzyme Q
* 100 i.u. of vitamin D
* 50 mg of thiamin

Additional supplements for greater sexual performance:
* 525 mg of Calcium
* 200 mcg of Vitamin B12
* 150 mg of Vitamin E
* 25 mcg of Potassium
* 300 mcg of Biotin
* 200 meg of selenium
* 400 mcg of Folic Acid

Herbs to enhance sexual awareness:
Damania Root
Yohimbe
Pumpkin Seed
Ginseng
Buckwheat Protige
Cranberry Extract
Horny Goat Weed

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One more thing...
Drink lots of water! 150 - 200 ounces of pure bottled water every day is a wonderful healing nutrient, which aids in your enlargement workout. Not to mention adding that extra bit of boost needed to get you through your normal daily routines.

• Workout/Fitness Tips

Yes, this is information you already know. Or should know. But it needs repeating. If you’re going to make yourself attractive to girls (and yes, most girls are as shallow as men…. they go for looks!), you’ve got to spend the necessary time – EVERY DAY – working on your personal appearance. Becoming fit should not be a chore. Just make it part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth. Drop some pounds. Lose that gut. Strengthen those thighs. It all adds up to the “Finished Product”.

Taking pride in your body helps accomplish two things:(1) Making yourself more desirable to the opposite sex, AND (2) Giving yourself incredible self-esteem and confidence. That second point is the most important lesson that you’ll find in this entire manual. Generally men between the ages of 30 and 50 gain a pound a year, and where does it go?Right to your waist. The best thing for this is a general aerobics workout, starting at 20 to 30 minutes three days a week, and increasing this to 30 or 40 minutes four to six days a week.

Here are some easy and effective Weight Loss/Fitness Tips. Cautionary note: you should consult your physician before beginning any fitness plan.

Choose activities that you ENJOY.
• Set realistic weight loss goals.
• Invest in a Personal Trainer. Is it worth it? YES!
• Eat more fruit.
• No more salt!
• Drink more water.
• Walk, Walk, Walk!

If you can’t last through the entire 30 minute workout, commit to three 10 minute workout sessions.
• Fry less, bake/broil more.
• Do 5 sit-ups each morning. Only Five.
• Do NOT skip breakfast.
• Keep a journal.
• Jump rope.
• Ride a bike.
• Join a fitness center ONLY if you can commit to going at least 3 days per week.
• Believe in yourself.

• Mastering Self-Confidence

Mastering Self-Confidence

“Attitude is Everything”. Surely, you’ve heard this saying. We won’t waste a lot of time discussing self-esteem and assertiveness training. This opens up a whole discussion of psychological mumbo-jumbo which could fill volumes and volumes of books. There’s only one Golden Rule that applies here. Learn it, remember it, and apply it to your life:

FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF, AND EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

What is it exactly that has you lacking confidence? Your looks? Your inexperience with women? Your lack of social graces?? Only YOU can determine the factors that inhibit you from a good self-image. And only YOU can change those factors.

A poor self-image or low self-esteem directly affects the way that you behave toward others. That dreaded “fear of rejection” can make you shy or overeager to please. Your insecurities can induce jealousy, damaging any hope of a relationship. Your self-esteem has a direct bearing on your confidence and ability to attract others. If you see yourself in a bad light, chances are that others do as well. By the same token, if you think that you’re a pretty good guy, women will take notice.

When you have positive self-esteem, you feel that you are worth something. Don’t EVER think that you can’t change the image that you project to others! There’s a lot that you can do to not only build up your own self-esteem, but to change the way that others see you.

• If you’re overweight… go on a diet.

• If you’re scrawny… start a workout program.

• If you’re going bald… look into a hair-growth system like Propecia or
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• If you’re shy… practice assertiveness.

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Whatever it is that’s making you feel bad about yourself, CHANGE IT!!! Attitude IS everything. Some of the most unattractive guys in the world are able to get women, and you know why? Because they BELIEVE they are attractive.Attitude is everything!

We’ll give you the Golden Rule one more time:
FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF, AND EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

Enough said. Let’s move on!
Next Section: The Secrets of Penis Enlargement

II. Power & Sexual Stamina

• Penis Enlargement Tips

Penis Enlargement is all well and good, but Penis Power… that’s what’s going to make you VERY popular with the opposite sex. Penis Power, in its broadest scope, encompasses every sexual function that your “mantool” is capable of. Yes, size is important.What guy doesn’t wish he had a 15” dick?But no matter how big your tool is … If you don’t know how to use it, what good is it?

This section is devoted to all of those great secrets that will turn your mildmannered ordinary penis into a verypowerful instrument.

RECOMMENDED WORKOUT
Alright. Let's Begin.
The Program (Review each exercise if necessary)
Hot Compress (5 minutes)
Stretching Exercise (25 to 30 minutes)
Growth and Circulation Exercise (1 minute)
Jelqing Exercise (10 to 20 minutes)
Massage and Hot Application (5 to 10 minutes)

HOT COMPRESS (5 minutes)
Soak a wash cloth in hot-warm water, wringing out the excess water. Wrap the cloth around the shaft of your penis (either flaccid or erect). Hold it there a minute, then repeat a couple of times. Dry off your penis well. This will ensure a good grip for the exercises you're about to perform.

STRETCHING EXERCISE (25 to 30 minutes)
1. With the penis in its flaccid state, take one hand and grip firmly around the head of your penis. Be careful not to cut off too much circulation.

2. Pull your penis out directly in front of yourself. Stretch it as much as you can without causing pain or discomfort. Hold it there for 5 minutes. After each minute, pull it out slightly further each time.

3. Relax for one minute. "Twirl" your penis in a circular motion about 30 times. This gets the circulation flowing again.

4. Repeat Step Two again 4 times, except pull your penis in a different direction each time... up, down, to the left, and to the right. After each 5 minute pull, repeat Step 3.

5. After you've completed 5 pulls (5 minutes each), pull your penis out directly in front of you one more time. Give it a good 1-minute stretch and 10 slight "tugs" outward, not jerking too hard.

GROWTH AND CIRCULATION EXERCISE (1 minute)

Take the penis and whip it around gently. Whip it no more than 30 times, making sure you cup your scrotum with the other hand, otherwise it will bounce around and get hurt.

JELQING (MILKING) EXERCISE (10 to 20 minutes)

1. Using Massage Oil, Hemp Oil, or Vaseline for lubrication, slide your fingers over the skin of your penis and apply all over. A few drops of oil will last for several hundred strokes. Don't use soap or you'll be sore for days!

2. With your thumb and forefinger, squeeze the base of the penis shaft. Pull downward. Stop at the head. Repeat, alternating hands. Make each stroke last about three seconds.

3. When your penis becomes SEMI-ERECT, make the American "A-OK" sign with the thumb and forefinger of your left hand. With this hand, grip tightly around the base of your penis.

4. Starting from the base, pull the penis gently but firmly. Stretch downward and outward. You should still be in a semi-erect state. Make sure to touch the penis from the base to the head. Note that the head of your penis expands with blood.

5. Alternate both hands in a smooth rhythmic ("milking") motion, touching upon every part of the penis except the very top-middle part.

Do 200-300 strokes/day at medium strength for the first week.(10 minutes)
Do 300-500 strokes/day at medium-full strength for the next week.(15 minutes)
Do 500 or more strokes/day from then on, and strong as you can make them. (20 min)

(If you find yourself getting an erection during this exercise, squeeze harder to discourage it or simply wait until it subsides. You can encourage circulation afterward by slapping your penis up and down 25 - 50 times. Do this exercise 5 days a week. Remember to keep your penis only partially erect. If you feel the urge to ejaculate, pause milking and wait for the urge to subside. Holding back is an exercise in restraint, which instills a sense of self-control.)

MASSAGE AND HEAT APPLICATION (5 to 10 minutes)
After your workout, gently massage your penis for several minutes. If you prefer, you can do this with an herbal enlargement cream. After massage, you can either apply another hot compress as you did at the beginning of your workout, or you can place your penis in a bowl of lukewarm water for another few minutes. Dry off well with a towel.

Well, that's the workout. These are the exercises, the "secrets", that are going to give you a longer, thicker, stronger penis... a firmer fatter erection... better orgasms....and lifelong sexual vigor! Do this Workout Program5 DAYS A WEEK, and YOU WILL HAVE PERMANENT GROWTH!! IT REALLY WORKS!

CURVATURE CORRECTION
Many men, it seems, are very unhappy with the way that their erect penis curves. It's a statement of fact that every penis is shaped differently.. some curve, some don't. The following technique will help you correct your penis curvature. 100% correction is not always accomplished, but the majority of men who use this technique DO experience significant success.

Please note that possessing a curved penis does NOT mean that you have Peyronies Disease. Peyronies is a more serious condition characterized by the formation of plaque on one side of the penis. This Curvature Correction technique is NOT recommended for men with Peyronies. You should see a doctor or urologist for treatment suggestions if you think you have that condition.

How does curvature correction work? It stands to reason that if your penis bends to one side, you need to apply a technique that bends it back toward the other. This method is very simple to perform, but (just like all of the techniques in our manual) caution must still be exercised. Don't bend the penis so hard that you cause damage to yourself. Bend it just hard enough to a feel bit of tightness in the shaft. You are essentially "training" your penis to point the other direction. It may take a few months, but eventually you should see a noticeable difference in your curvature.

Directions:
It's best to be seated for this method. The penis should be fully erect and lubricated.
1. With your thumb and forefinger in a ring, get a firm grip around the base of the penis. Don't grab the scrotum... you might squeeze one of your testicles (ouch!). You will hold the penis base throughout the entire exercise. Just as with any jelq method, you want to trap the blood within the penis.
2. Take your free hand and get a firm grasp near the penis base, just above your other hand. Slowly stroke the shaft toward the head of the penis, but stopping just below the glans. Hold it there for about 10 seconds. You now have one hand on the base of the penis and the other just below the head. The blood is trapped compactly inside the shaft.
3. With the hand that is underneath the head, gently start pulling the penis outward. You want to gradually stretch the penis so that it is as erect as it can possibly get. It should feel very hard now. Its capacity is at its greatest.
4. With the same hand, stretch your penis so that it faces the opposite direction of your bend. In other words, if your penis bends to the right, stretch it to the left. Bend it as far as it will go WITHOUT HURTING YOURSELF! Once you feel a good tightness, hold that position for a good 15 seconds.
5. Now, jelq the penis as you normally would, EXCEPT stroke the penis from base to head in that same direction (the direction that you want the penis to bend). Do about 200-300 strokes. Every 10 strokes or so, stretch the penis as you did in Step #4, then continue jelqing.
This exercise CAN be done in conjunction with the other exercises in the Workout. Just make sure your penis isn't getting too sore or red. If you need to take a break between exercises, by all means, do!

• Introduction Kegel Exercises

Introduction Kegel Exercises

In researching this manual, time and time again we came across countless resources mentioning PC, or "Kegel" Exercises. With regards to sexual performance, these Kegel exercises are some of the most IMPORTANT exercises you’ll ever learn in your life! Mastering these techniques can help:

Give you stronger erections Create intense, even multiple, orgasms Control your ejaculations Shorten the recovery time between orgasms Give you a healthy prostate
The PC muscle (or pubococcygeal muscle) is actually a group of pelvic muscles that form the basis for your sexual health. They run from your pubic bone in the front to your tailbone in the back. You can feel this muscle at your perineum, just behind your testicles and in front of your anus. In addition to controlling urination with other pelvic muscles, the PC muscle is what helps bring a man or woman to climax. For men, this is the muscle that involuntarily "pumps" when you ejaculate.

Strengthening and learning to control this muscle, you will find, is THE sex secret.
These Kegel exercises (which were named after Arnold Kegel, M.D., the gynecologist who developed them in the 1950's) involve doing a set of easy-to-learn pelvic-muscle exercises. This is a FOOLPROOF way for men to boost their partners' and their own pleasure during lovemaking. Women have already been using their PC muscles for years to help them get sexually aroused easier, lubricate faster, and have more and better orgasms.

First you must Locate Your PC Muscle. It's actually easier for men to locate this muscle and do Kegel Exercises than it is for women. Simply stop your urine midstream when you urinate. You can feel the muscle working as you clamp down.If you have a strong PC Muscle, you should be able to stop the flow of urine midstream and then start it again.If this is a difficult chore for you, then your PC Muscle is weak. Stopping the flow of urine not only teaches you how to find the PC muscle, but gets you started on your exercises. Stop and restart your urination 5 times during every trip to the bathroom. Using your ability to stop the flow of urine will eventually help you control your ejaculations.

Time-honored Taoist healing techniques refer to this process simply as "tightening the anus". You can flex the PC muscle quickly and repeatedly, or clench tight and hold for as long as you can. This latter exercise is tougher than it sounds, yet this is the exercise that the sex gurus say will help you prolong your erections and increase the force with which you ejaculate.

• Kegel Exercises

Once you've found your muscle, you can start doing the PC Exercises anytime and anywhere. You want to squeeze your PC on a daily systematic basis.

These are the PC (Kegel) Exercises:
1. Perform quick PC CLAMPS. Squeeze and release, over and over. Start with sets of twenty, then build to 100 or more. Do at least 250 PC clamps every day, for the rest of your life. Your goal is to be capable of creating 1,000 clamps a day.

2. Practice LONG SQUEEZES by holding the PC muscle clamped tightly for thirty seconds, or as long as you can.

3. Try doing STAIR STEPS: tighten and loosen in increments. Tighten for a couple of seconds, loosen for a couple of seconds. Do it over and over again.

4. PC FLUTTER: Tighten the PC muscle as slowly as you possibly can. Once you've finished the slow squeeze (to where you can't squeeze anymore), let go. At some point it will "flutter," and you'll feel energy sparkling up your spine. Concentrate on deep, slow breathing while you do this. This is great for restoring energy when you're running down!

5. When you urinate and you want to let those last squirts shoot out, you use your PC muscle in the other direction. By doing this you'll feel your anus open and the sensation is different. This is called the PUSH OUT PC.

Most men can do Kegels anywhere (even driving in the car!), since they're seldom aroused by the exercises. Continued over a lifetime, the exercises can help men (and women) head off urinary incontinence as they get older. That, plus greater arousal, enhanced orgasms and longer-lasting sex, make these some of the simplest, most beneficial exercises a man or woman can do.

Psychologists and sex experts have prescribed Kegel exercises to thousands of male patients, many of whom were troubled by erection problems. Most who did the exercises reported firmer erections than ever before. Others reported increased sexual sensation, more intense orgasms, and the ability to delay ejaculation. And most surprisingly, some of the men were eventually able to have multiple orgasms! That is, two or more climaxes during a single act of intercourse BEFORE ejaculating!

• Premature Ejaculation

First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants to.Sex therapists prefer to use the term “Involuntary Ejaculation” since the key to controlling it revolves around gaining voluntary control.Premature Ejaculation ranks as one of the top male sex problems.

The following are some tips and exercises that will assist you in learning to control this problem:

For starters, you might drink a glass of wine before having sex. Alcohol may relax you just enough to delay your ejaculation. Or there's the old tried and true practice of masturbating a few hours before making love. If you "take care of your business" early (Watch “There’s Something About Mary” again), it will take you longer to ejaculate when the time comes to do it with your partner. The best method for reducing the chances of premature ejaculation is one that we mentioned in the previous section - Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze. Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you've forgotten where these muscles are located. Strong PC muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car- by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the same way you use your brakes to control speed. In the broadest terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong orgasms by a simulation of "stopping your urination in midstream". Learn the powers of these muscles and how to use them. They will work wonders in the bedroom!
Masters and Johnson developed a method called The Squeeze Technique to help with premature ejaculation.It’s fairly simple.When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, withdraw your penis from the vagina.Then place the first 2 fingers of either hand on the underside of the penis, place your thumb on the top, and then squeeze. You can do this yourself, or you can have your partner squeeze the head of the penis between her thumb and fingers. Since your penis is erect, it won’t really hurt if she gives it an intense squeeze.

An old Taoist method for delaying ejaculation is performed by Pressing The Million Dollar Point. This Point is located on your perineum just in front of the anus.You will feel a slight indentation when you push at the right spot.When you approach ejaculation, take your finger and push it up into the Million Dollar Point, all the way to the first joint of your finger.This will help delay ejaculation by interrupting the ejaculatory reflex.This technique is great because you can use it without having to withdraw your penis from the vagina.
Another simple method is called Scrotal Tugging.As the name implies, you simply pull your testicles away from your body to delay ejaculation.This is accomplished by circling the top of your scrotal sac with your thumb and forefinger, then pulling down firmly.
You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual pleasure without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the feelings that precede your orgasm. There is an exercise you can try called The "One to Ten" Approach. Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate. Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your “Point Of No Return. Try masturbating. When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate subside. Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times. Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.

Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method (or “Stop-Start” Method). When having sex, if you feel yourself becoming too excited... simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside her. Then just remain motionless for 15 - 30 seconds. Wait for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off.

• Last Longer In Bed

There’s nothing more frustrating for a female than getting all worked up into a heated frenzy while having sex, coming “this close” to orgasm… only to have the man cum before she gets there.We guys, we can’t help it!Sometimes it feels TOO good.But in order to enhance your lovemaking skills (as well as your partner’s pleasure), you really should learn how to hold out a little longer.Remember, it’s better if BOTH partners are sexually gratified.
In addition to the techniques we mentioned in the previous section, there are a few more simple things you can try to keep from ejaculating too soon:
Have Sex in the "Woman-on-Top" Position. This position is great because she controls the rhythm, and you can’t speed up the penetration tempo which men usually do before reaching orgasm.Also, this position is slightly less comfortable for the man because you’re carrying the weight of the woman.This keeps you from getting too relaxed and draws your attention away from peaking.

Have Sex When You’re Tired. Being a little exhausted can make you hold out because you’re less sensitive.

Wear a Condom… or Two. If you’re having sex with a new partner, you should be wearing a condom anyway. Many men complain how wearing a rubber takes away the lack of sensation during sex.That’s not necessarily a bad thing if you’re trying to last a little longer.
Think About Baseball.Or anything for that matter! This is a method that men have been using for centuries to delay ejaculation.If you feel yourself coming dangerously close to cumming, try and think of the names of the Seven Dwarfs or the capitol of Wyoming.Little brain-teasers like that may distract you long enough for your lady to reach the "Big O".

• Multi-Orgasmic Male

It doesn’t seem fair, does it?A woman can have multiple orgasms in a single session of lovemaking, while the man climaxes one time and he’s done.Why exactly is this?It has to do with the internal mechanics of ejaculation in men and the need for a refractory (rest) period.It usually takes about 20 minutes for the man to “reload” before he’s ready to go at it again.

But research has proven that given the right techniques, a man can actually become multi-orgasmic! The principle behind this is easy to understand:
Ejaculation and Orgasm are NOT the same thing!

That’s right. There is a difference between the pleasurable sensations of the orgasm and the physical event of ejaculation.In essence, you can have an orgasm without ejaculating, and you can ejaculate without having an orgasm.The trick is differentiating between the two, and learning to control both.
The lessons that you need to achieve this feat have been pretty much discussed in this section already.Most men who practice these exercises will begin to experience multiple orgasms within a week or two and will master them within three to six months.
First and foremost, you need to develop your sexual strength.This brings us back to those amazing PC Muscles.Once the muscles are strengthened, you can learn to separate orgasm and ejaculation.Your orgasm builds from your prostate, so learning how to squeeze on the prostate with your pelvic muscle is vital.Get in the habit of squeezing them several times every day.When correctly applied during sex, this is how it works:When you approach orgasm, you hold back by slowing down or stopping by pulling out of the vagina.By squeezing the PC Muscles at the point of ejaculation, you may experience “mini-orgasms” that feel quite wonderful and enable you to continue having sex for an extended period of time.

You need to also get into the habit of using one (or some) of the techniques we mentioned in the previous section on controlling premature ejaculation, including the Squeeze Technique, the Locking Method, the Scrotal Tug, or Pressing the Million Dollar Point.Applying any or all of these techniques teaches your body to gain control over what is wrongly perceived as one of the most uncontrollable of impulses.

Some doctors say that learning the Squeeze Technique is the quickest way for men to become multi-orgasmic.You should practice these ejaculatory control techniques at least 3 to 5 times a week. Consider it a training session, and abstain from masturbation while doing so.Focus also on the Scrotal Tug.In so doing, you will learn to keep your testicles pulled down to delay ejaculation.You can either hold them between your legs or gently tug them down with one hand.
In addition to the Exercises and the aforementioned techniques for controlling premature ejaculation we’ve already discussed, you want to focus on breathing.Since the breath is the gateway to controlling your entire body, you need to practice strengthening and deepening your breathing patterns.Inhale through your nose and feel your lower abdomen expand at the navel area.While keeping your chest relaxed, exhale with some force to pull the lower abdomen back, as if you were pulling your navel back towards your spine.Notice also that your penis and testicles pull up while exhaling.Continue breathing this way between 20 to 35 times.Learning to control your breathing in this way will become essential to stopping yourself from ejaculating and to expanding the feeling of orgasm throughout your entire body.

Now you’ve got all of the basics you need to learn to become a multi-orgasmic male.One noted sex expert developed the following step-by-step system of separating orgasm from ejaculation.Once you differentiate between the two, your staying power will be endless and your orgasms will be many.
Exercise to Separate Orgasm from Ejaculation:
Lubricate your penis.
Begin pleasuring yourself.Not just your penis, but your scrotum and the perineum.
Become aware of your rate of arousal.Notice the tingling at the base of your penis, the stages of erection, and the changes in both your breathing and your heartbeat.
Stimulate yourself ALMOST to the point of orgasm, then stop. Breathe deeply and contract your PC muscle.You can also delay ejaculation by pressing on the Million Dollar Point, using the Scrotal Tug or by pressing on the tip of your penis.(You will have to discover which of these techniques works best for you and keep practicing it.)Very important: Pay close attention to your arousal and stopping in time… at least a few strokes before the “Point of No Return”.
If you’re finding it difficult to keep from ejaculating, keep squeezing and releasing your PC Muscles several times.Stop for a few seconds, and practice your deep breathing.
After you have peaked several times without ejaculating, stop. You should feel peaceful.You should feel rejuvenated.Again, take note of the sexual energy circulating in your body, which you will feel as a tingling or prickling.
It will take practice and utmost concentration on your part.Don’t give up on it, though.The most noted Sex Therapists in the world all say the same thing: ANY MAN CAN LEARN TO BECOME MULTI-ORGASMIC.It won’t happen in a single sitting (actually, it might!), but the more you gain control over your body.. the easier it will become to climax again and again during a single session of lovemaking.Now won’t that make your lover jealous?!

• Increase Your Ejaculation

Many of our customers have been writing and asking us to include some information on this subject. I guess they've been reading some of the other enlargement websites that promise to tell you "How to Cum Like a Porn Star!". We never really understood the fascination, but we always try to give our customers want they want. And so.. here at last.. the Secrets of Cumming Revealed!
First and foremost, you should review the section on PC (Kegel) Exercises. In order to achieve the force and vigor needed to "shoot a large load", you really need a strong PC muscle. If that muscle is well-developed, you'll find it much easier to control both the amount and distance of your semen as you ejaculate.

The thickness of your ejaculate is another thing to consider. You want your ejaculate to be thin, not heavy or "gooey". Also, you want it to have a lot of consistency and volume. What's the best way to achieve this? Through the right diet and supplements. Eat healthy. Cut out the red meat. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Drink lots of water. These things absolutely affect the quality of your semen.

As far as nutrients, the most important one for increasing ejaculate is VirilityPills. This product will help increase the volume of your ejaculation; it will assist in giving you a harder, firmer erection. Don't take too much in a 24 hour period, and if you notice any adverse reactions, stop taking immediately.
Now that you're eating right and taking the proper nutrients, you should try to avoid ejaculating every day (bad news for you chronic masturbators!). Your first ejaculation of the day is always the greatest in volume. Try to withhold from cumming for a couple of days. This will assure that you have a large volume of semen saved up for that one BIG LOAD!

When it's actually time to ejaculate, you should flex your PC muscle at the exact time of your orgasm. Reach the ultimate peak of stimulation, then let loose with great force. You'll be surprised at the volume and distance achieved in that single moment!

Next Section: Flavor Of Your Semen

• Flavor of Your Semen

Another positive benefit of improving your diet is that it has an overall effect on the TASTE of your semen. Many men find that their sexual partners refuse to "swallow" based on the fact that their semen has a bad bitter taste, or that it's too thick and makes them gag. Again, eating healthy will change both the flavor and consistency of your ejaculate.

Nutritionists say that alkaline-based foods, such as meats and fish, produce a buttery, fishy taste.Dairy products create the worst tasting semen.You can eat more vegetables, but stay away from asparagus (very bad taste!).Eating fruit gives your bodily fluids a more pleasant (almost sugary) taste. You can also drink one or two glasses of pineapple juice a day.This will give your semen a milder, less bitter, taste. Chemically processed liquors will cause a very acidic taste, so stay away from alcohol.Pure water, however, is great.>
To review:
• Don't eat red meat.
• Avoid alchohol whenever possible.
• No milk or dairy products.
• Eat more fruits & vegetables.
• No asparagus!
• Drink lots of water.

• Erection Problems

The truth of the matter is this… your penis isn’t going to work perfectly EVERY single moment of your life. Almost every adult male has had trouble achieving or maintaining an erection from time to time. It’s completely normal. But it’s something that most men don’t understand.Many times a man thinks he is impotent, when in fact he is merely having occasional difficulties “getting it up”. What would cause this? Well, it might be any number of physiological reasons, like too much alcohol or side effects from medication. Or it might be a psychological factor, such as performance anxiety, anger or exhaustion. But the actual term “Impotence” refers to a condition whereby the man has an inability to get an erection and keep it (long enough to have intercourse) ALL OR MOST OF THE TIME. How common are male erectile problems? At least 50% of men past the age of 40 have some form of erection difficulties! These might be minimal, moderate or more serious. So, fear not, you’re not alone.The primary factors associated with erection problems are, not surprisingly, aging and the illnesses that go along with it. These might be heart disease, prostate cancer, or diabetes. However, while impotence is strongly associated with age, it can often be reversed by lifestyle and behavioral changes.

There are reasonable steps you can take to prevent the onset of impotence: Eat Lean.
It is now widely believed that the most common cause of impotence is atherosclerotic plaque forming on the walls of the penile arteries - a consequence of high cholesterol. Stick to a lean, low-fat high-fiber diet. Highly Recommended! Exercise. Working out and staying healthy, at any age for that matter, can absolutely aid you in the sexual department. Don’t Smoke. Many studies have found conclusive evidence that cigarette smoking adversely affects penis performance. Less Booze and Drugs. Chronic use of alcohol, marijuana and other drugs can easily impair your ability to produce an erection. Watch Your Medications. Erection problems are also highly associated with medications for high blood pressure, heart problems, and low blood sugar. How do you know if your erection problems are just psychological? Here are some factors that might indicate this: You can get an erection with one partner, but not another. You can get an erection while masturbating, but not with your partner. You achieve an erection, then immediately lose it upon penetration. You’re going through stressful situations, like divorce or financial problems. You’ve got a history of depression. You have no physical ailments such as heart disease, diabetes or advance age. If it’s determined that your problems are indeed psychological, your best bet is to seek professional help. Sex therapists, counselors and psychiatrists are trained in this matter, and more often than not, help their patients work through whatever difficulties may be causing their erection problems. But what if your erection problems are physical, and not psychological? You won’t really know for sure until you see a specialist. Still, these days there are several options available to you for treatment. Viagra. So miraculous is this drug that we’ve devoted an entire section to it. (See further down on this page). This is your absolute best bet for restoring erections. Other Pills and Medication. Start with Yohimbine, a sort of “love potion” with a history of restoring erections. It’s cheap and has few side effects. There’s also Trazodone, an antidepressant (with a brand name of Desyrel) that has been found to prolong erections. Injection Therapy. With the advent of Viagra, injection therapy is not as popular as it once was. The procedure involves giving yourself an injection at the base of your penis with a small needle, which produces an erection lasting up to 2 hours. Vacuum Devices. Pumps that draw blood into the penis and create an erection. They may produce a sometimes wobbly hard-on, but hard enough to get the job done. Surgery. Not a prime consideration for treating impotence, but a consideration nonetheless.

Implants. Usually a last resort.

If you’re having any sort of erection difficulties, first determine the cause. Treatment is much easier now than it used to be, so don’t despair. Millions and millions of men share your problem. But fortunately, they also share your encouraging prospects for a solution. Next Section: All About Viagra

• All About Viagra

The Wonder Drug! About 30 million men in the United States (and many more worldwide) suffer from male erectile dysfunction (ED), often called impotence, which is the inability to get and/or keep an erection. Viagra has quickly become a phenomenon… an actual breakthrough treatment for ED. It’s been prescribed over 16 million times and is available in nearly 100 countries worldwide. It’s a convenient discreet pill that you take only when you want to have sex. It allows men to get and keep an erection when they become sexually stimulated, either physically or visually. So how exactly does Viagra work? When a man is sexually aroused, the arteries in the penis relax and widen, which allows more blood to flow to the penis. As the arteries expand and harden, the veins that normally carry blood away from the penis become compressed. This restricts the blood flow out of the penis. With more blood flowing in and less flowing out, the penis enlarges, resulting in an erection. If the nerves or blood vessels aren’t working properly, a man may not be able to get an erection. Viagra increases blood flow to the penis, so that when a man is sexually aroused, he can maintain an erection. When the sexual encounter is over, the erection goes away.

How well does Viagra work? The statistics are impressive. Viagra improves erections in up to 4 out of 5 men (up to 82% of patients) who take it, regardless of how long they have had ED, what caused it, or how old they are. Viagra is ONLY for patients with erectile dysfunction. It is not for newborns, children or women. If you decide that you would like to try Viagra, you should first ask your Health Care Provider if your heart is healthy enough. If you use nitrate drugs, like nitroglycerine (drugs commonly used for the treatment of chest pains), NEVER TAKE VIAGRA! This could cause your blood pressure to drop to an unsafe or life-threatening level. Nitrates are found in many prescription medications used to treat angina. If you’re not sure if your medications contain nitrates, ask your doctor or pharmacist. You should understand that with Viagra, you must be sexually aroused to get an erection.

If you take Viagra and are not sexually stimulated, nothing will happen. YOU WON’T GET AN ERECTION SIMPLY BY TAKING THE PILL. Viagra is not a hormone or an aphrodisiac. It’s a prescription medication. Viagra should be taken about 1 hour before engaging in sexual activity. For most patients, it begins working in about 30 minutes and can last up to 4 hours. Viagra comes in different doses ( 25 mg, 50 mg, and 100 mg). Your health care provider may have to adjust your initial dose if it doesn’t produce the desired results or you’re bothered by side effects. It is generally recommend that you only take Viagra once a day. As with any prescription medication, there are side effects associated with Viagra. These are usually mild and don’t last longer than a few hours. Some of the side effects are more likely to occur with higher doses of Viagra. The most common side effects are headache, facial flushing and upset stomach. It may briefly cause bluish or blurred vision, or sensitivity to light. In the rare event of an erection lasting more than 4 hours, you should seek immediate medical help.

Viagra truly IS a Wonder Drug. The internet boom has only increased interest in Viagra, and, as a result, sales have skyrocketed.There are numerous sites which allow you to purchase Viagra online. One of the best is Kwik-Med. You can place your order online, a licensed physician will review it and write a prescription, then the Viagra will be shipped discreetly directly to your doorstep. What could be easier??

If you're hesitant about ordering Viagra or perhaps can't afford it, there are other products available that offer similar, if not the same, results. Among these are: Liquid-Rx - Available exclusively at LiquidRx, it supports enhanced sexual potency by increasing blood flow to the penis (taken 10 minutes prior to sexual activity). A year in the making, the ingredients are of the highest quality.

Virility Pills - Available at VirilityPills.com. A natural stimulant that helps men achieve erections, as well as increase sensation and sex drive.

III. Dating & Seducing Women

• Where To Meet Women

You’d think this would be a pretty easy thing to figure out… afterall, women are EVERYWHERE… but a lot of guys actually have no idea where to go to meet women. We could give you a list of 1,000 different places, but here, in no particular order, are the
Top 20 Places to Meet Women, as compiled for Gentlemen Magazine:

Bar Dance Club
Music Club (e.g., a jazz club)
Shopping Mall
Coffee Shop
Library
Your Workplace or School/Campus Parties or Social Gatherings
Park or Beach Your Own Neighborhood or Apartment Complex
Health Club
Rock Concerts
Washateria Church (that’s not the only reason to go!)
Seminars
Meetings
Conferences
Vacation Spots
Hotels
Cruises
Special Classes (Acting Class, Dance Class, etc.
Recreational Facilities Meet through Mutual Friends Personals / Online Services

If you expect to meet a woman, you have to get up, get out and get moving.
The more places you go, the more people you interact with… the better your chance of meeting someone. Sitting at home and feeling sorry for yourself will not help you meet anyone.

• What Women Want

A popular women’s magazine conducted a survey asking them “What traits do you most look for in a man?”. Here are the results: Women desire a man with these characteristics: Confidence Humor Great smile Attractive / Well-groomed (see next section) Romantic / Able to connect emotionally They were also asked “What key factors must a man must possess in order to secure a date?”. The women replied: Patience Persistance (but not to the point of being annoying) Being comfortable enough to approach a woman they’ve never met Ability to talk to a woman and build a rapport Sensitivity to her feelings and responses Ability to make a woman start thinking romantically about that person

• Appearance and Grooming

Always looking your best is essential in securing a woman. You want to induce desire within the woman. Looks ARE important, but they’re not EVERYTHING. You don’t have to be incredibly handsome and attractive. You don’t have to be a movie star or a GQ model. But you DO have to look as good as you can. Here are the main things to focus on:

Exercise & Diet
Begin by staying in shape. This isn’t as difficult as it sounds. Simply exercise regularly and eat sensibly. If you don’t have the money to join a health club, go spend $40.00 on some weights and do some exercises in your own home. Do your push-ups and sit-ups. Walking, swimming, jogging, cycling… all of these are great ways to burn fat and improve your cardiovascular fitness. We’ve already discussed a proper diet in Section One, but remember to eat plenty of fresh fruit and leafy green vegetables. Cut down on your sugar intake. Balance your protein intake with carbohydrates. And limit your intake of animal fat, by eating lean meat or swap fish for chicken.

Hair
This is much more important than you think it is. If you’re not balding, your hair should be styled into whatever cut is currently popular (and styles change quite often!). If your hair is prematurely gray, then color it. If, however, you’re middle-aged or older, you may wish to keep the gray. Many women find this quality attractive in older men. If you find yourself losing your hair, Propecia is your best alternative. You can order it online quickly and discreetly.

It’s not inexpensive, but take our word for it… IT DOES WORK! We have three men on our staff who use it… and all three of them have regained the hair that they were losing. You can order Propecia right now at Kwik-Med... you'll have it at your doorstep within a matter of days! Another alternative for balding men is just to keep it very very short OR cut it all off entirely. The bald look has become more “in” in recent years. Lastly, remember that hair is for your head… not your nostrils, ears or shoulders. Trim and pluck ‘em if you have to. Keep your chest hair covered initially. Some women find it sexy; others don’t… so why risk it?

Teeth
You’ve heard it since you were little boys… brush your teeth, clean your teeth, floss your teeth! It still holds true. Clean them after every meal- morning, noon and night. You can buy Teeth Whitening products in any pharmacy to keep your choppers pearly white. If you need to see a dentist, do so. Get those cavities filled, and cap or crown those teeth. Remember, that a clean and healthy mouth keeps your breath fresh. And fresh breath is a BIGGIE with girls!

Clothing
Again, very important! Women like a well-dressed man, and the right wardrobe gives the appearance of wealth, success, and power… all of which are turn-ons for many women whether they choose to admit it or not. So how to dress? Copy success. Visit a mall, restaurant, or bar and observe what men in your age group are wearing. Pay closest attention to those guys who are with great-looking women. Next step – copy them. You don’t have to be a fashion guru- just imitate what other successful men are wearing. Buy whatever clothes are trendy. Don’t worry so much about bracelets, necklaces, and piercings.. but maybe invest in a nice watch. Also, make sure you dress right for the occasion. If you’re going to the park or a Starbucks, dress casual. If you’re going to an upscale party, dress formal. Wear smart-casual for a relaxed restaurant meal and trendy-casual for a dance club. The old saying that “Clothes Make the Men” is absolutely true. And we’ll take it one step further… “Clothes Get the Women”!

• Approaching Women

O.K., you’ve spotted her across the crowded room. In your mind, you’re confident that she’s the “one”. You slowly make your way to her. Your heart is pounding. Your palms are sweating. You reach her…. and then… You open your mouth. You blow it! No second chances, bub. So what do you say? How do you act? The following 10 tips are recommended by women on how the man should first approach her. You’d be wise to read these. Everyone knows… the woman is always right!
Tip #1: Don’t request a date immediately. Wait until a conversation first occurs before asking her out. For God’s sake, at least find out her name first! If she doesn’t know who in the world you are… no matter how nice, charming or goodlooking you may be, chances are VERY slim that she’s going to want to go out with a complete stranger.
Tip #2: Don’t pounce upon her the minute that she walks into the place. A woman wants to become accustomed to her new surroundings, have a drink, talk to friends or relax before being rushed by a man who descends on her like a vulture to prey. Let her start enjoying herself before making your first move.
Tip #3: Don’t overdo it with flattery or flowery compliments.
“Your eyes light up the room like moonlight on still waters... Pleeeeease! Even if you’re sincere when throwing her a line like that. she’s going to have a tough time swallowing it. Compliments are all well and good, but don’t overdo it. When you DO say something nice, go for a nice casual comment like “You have a great smile” as opposed to “Nice rack ya got there!”.
Tip #4: If buying her a drink, don’t expect a miracle. She may say “thank you”, but even that’s no guarantee. Better to send her a drink anonymously. This conjures up an element of mystery or intrigue that can inspire her to “investigate” the sender and personally thank you. This can lead to a conversation which can lead to… whatever.
Tip #5: When approaching a group of women, don’t hit on one after another. Use your head. Every woman wants to feel special. If she sees you going from woman to woman like Musical Chairs, that “special” factor is tossed right out the window.
Tip #6: Don’t be desperate, overanxious or pushy. Respect her space and don’t get grabby or physical. So many men ignore this rule. There’s a big difference between being pleasantly persistant and being an absolute nuisance. Keep your encounter with her conversational and friendly. Don’t ruin it by putting your arm around her. You may think you’re suave and debonair. Chances are, she thinks you’re an asshole.
Tip #7: Ask for her phone number ONLY if you plan on using it. If you’re lucky enough to actually get her phone number on a napkin, your job is only half complete. Dial her up. She wouldn’t give you her number if she didn’t want you to call her.
Tip #8: Ask her out at least two or three days in advance. Don’t try to rush the date. This wreaks of desperation. Play it cool, boy. Good things come to those who wait.
Tip #9: Don’t ask her to go away with you on a vacation, to a wedding or an office function. You’ve just met her! She barely knows you, so a trip to Tahiti or your cousin’s barmitzvah are not prime choices for a first date.
Tip #10: Spend the money on breath mints. Otherwise, you’ll never get past “hello”.

• Flirting Tips

The very first phase of the Mating Game is initiated by the woman sending you some sort of nonverbal signal. This is supposed to be the man’s cue to respond. In general though, men are not very good at picking up on female signals. Either they’re unaware of the signs to look for, entirely oblivious, or just plain stupid. To help you out, here are the

Top 10 Female Flirting Gestures which could very well mean that she’s interested in you:
She raises her eyebrows for a couple of seconds, then quickly lowers them.
She gives you short, darting glances.
She gives you a coy smile, either looking downward or giving you brief eye contact.
She licks her lips. It might be a single lick on the upper or lower lip, or she might run her tongue around the entire lip area.
She hikes up her skirt a bit and exposes a little more leg.
She fondles objects, like sliding her palm up and down her glass or playing with her napkin. She pushes her fingers through her hair.
She primps her clothes.
She whispers to her friend.
She moves her body in time to the music.

When you DO finally pick up on her clues, you can take it to the next level. If you’re at a club, ask her to dance. If you’re at a bar, send her a drink. This opens up a line of communication. It also opens the floodgates for more flirting. There are certain things that you can do to charm and woo her, and let her know that you are definitely interested. Remember, flirting is play. It’s saying one thing and meaning another, and fully intending that both of your meanings are understood.

A leading expert on Human Sexuality offers men these tips.

Top 10 Ways To Be a Great Flirt: Use flattery, but be sincere. Smile.
Keep direct eye contact.
Listen to her. Give her your undivided attention.
If you discover a common interest, discuss it.
Ask her about her life, her job, etc.
If you learn her name, repeat it while talking to her.
Be relaxed, be conversational and be yourself.
Have confidence and feel good about yourself. Don’t let past rejections cloud your judgment and make you paranoid about interaction.
Be truthful, careful and clear about your intentions. 5 Things to Avoid when Flirting:
Don't wait on her to make something happen. You guide the conversation.
Don't talk too much about yourself (boast) unless she shows genuine interest.
Don't cling to her, paw her, grope her.
Don’t fidget or appear nervous.
Don't rush her into something that she doesn’t want to be rushed into. Ease her into it and make her feel comfortable about the situation and about you.

• How to Read Her Signals

“Does she like me?”
“Is she interested?”
“Was she coming on to me?”

What guy has not asked himself these questions when he has a hot babe in front of him? If only women spoke exactly what was on their minds, it would save us a lot of time and embarassment in moments like these. So how do you know if she’s really interested? You’ve got to look for the clues.

Body language is extremely important in the Mating Game. Whether consciously or unconsciously, one’s inner thoughts and desires can be conveyed without any verbal communication at all. It begins with eye contact. Women tend to look away, then back at the person that they’re interested in. Also, her eyes may widen and her pupils may dilate.

You can also gage her interest through her gestures and actions. Research has shown that we tend to copy the body language of people that we like. You lean into her, she leans into you. You smile, she smiles. These are perfect examples.

Here are 10 ways that she may show her attraction to you:
She lowers and softens her voice.
She opens her eyes widely.
She touches you, maybe by brushing something off of your clothes.
She leans forward with interest while talking to you.
She touches or strokes her hair and tilts her head.
She smiles warmly.
She looks briefly at you, then looks away again.
She crosses her legs or angles her body towards you.
She crosses and uncrosses her legs.
She straightens her body, drawing attention to her breasts.
She’ll do what she can to make herself more attractive to you, to emphasize her best points, and to let you know that.. YES, she’s interested. Read the signals. Don’t let her get away

• Meeting Women Online!

Thank God for this glorious computer-age! Never in the history of mankind has meeting women been made so simple. More than any other method that we can mention, using Online Personals services is, bar none, the best way to find someone of the opposite sex. Whether it’s a meaningful relationship you’re looking for, a foreign bride, a little kinky rendezvous, or just down-and-dirty humping… there are several websites that specialize in uniting men and women for… whatever.
Personal ads in newspapers and dating services have been around a while, and have always been successful in bringing couples together. But these online services found on the World Wide Web are now the #1 leaders in Matchmaking, in both selection and quality.

Here are some of the many benefits of Web-based Personals: Wide variety of sites, from ladies looking for simple romance and marriage… to bad girls heavily into S & M and other kinky pleasures. Inexpensive. Most of these services charge a very low monthly fee… far less than what non-computer dating services would cost. Think about it. $20.00 or $30.00 a month is far less than what you’d spend in bars buying different unappreciative girls drink after drink. And your chances are much better at hooking up with someone online that you’re actually compatible with.
Time-Saving. You can sign up and begin searching for your match within minutes. Also, your responses are automatically forwarded to you.
Convenience. You can e-mail people 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Safety. Most of these services use secure e-mail systems which protect your identity while placing and responding to ads.
Opportunity to meet real women. Men and women who use online services are not losers. On the contrary, they are normal everyday people just trying to find a soulmate or partner. As a matter of fact, it’s now considered the coolest and most successful way to meet women.
Opportunity to talk to women. Through e-mail conversations with your potential partner, you really get a sense of who she is. Ask questions, request a photo, learn her likes and dislikes. By the time you actually meet her, the ice will have long been broken and you both will practically know one another. This makes it much easier to guide the relationship to the next step.

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• Where To Go on Dates

Not that any of you guys have trouble deciding where to take your date, we’re still including this section in our manual. In a 1998 survey conducted among men and women under 40, here are the Top 25 Places chosen to go on dates:

A Restaurant
See a movie
Go to a Comedy Club
Go to a coffee house
Go to a game room
Hit a Jazz Club
Dancing
Bowling
Roller Skating
Horseback Riding
Cycling
Go to an amusement park/circus
Go canoeing/sailing
Skiing
Walk by a lake, river or on the beach
Drive to an area of natural beauty
Cook dinner together
A Family Barbeque
Have an indoor or outdoor Picnic
Go to a concert
Go to a play
Go to a museum
Go to a sports event (IF she likes sports!)
Go to an Expo
Go Sightseeing/Visit place neither of you have ever been.

• 20 Dating Rules For Men

So you’ve finally worked up the nerve to ask her out… and you’ve scored a date! Great.But before you plan the “Perfect Evening”, you’d better review these 20 Dating Rules. These were suggested by a leading relationship expert:
Don’t surprise her with a movie or meal on the first date… at least not until you’re absolutely sure what she likes and dislikes.Suppose you’ve made a reservation at the local steakhouse, and she’s a vegetarian?Or you take her to see “Scream 14”, and she hates slasher flicks?
Let the evening go where it goes.Be a gentleman, and be receptive to her plans and suggestions.
Make sure you’re up on current events and happenings. Read the paper or watch the news that day so you’ll have something to discuss with her.On the same subject, don’t just catch up on the latest Sports News and attempt to charm her with your knowledge of the NBA… she probably won’t be impressed.
For Heaven’s sake, look your best. Brush your teeth, clean your nails, comb your hair, don’t wear shorts and sneakers… these things SHOULD go without saying.
It may sound cliché, but a gift is always nice.Believe it or not, women STILL like receiving flowers, candy and all that stuff.
Don’t be late!Your unpunctuality sets the tone for the rest of the evening.
Don’t lie.Every little untruth you tell always comes back to bite you in the ass.By the third or fourth date, she’ll catch you in one of your little fibs and it could ruin the whole relationship.
BE YOURSELF! You might get away with acting differently on your first date.But what are you going to do down the road when she discovers you’re someone that you’re not?If a relationship has any chance of working, you both have to be who you are from the beginning.That’s the only way you’ll know if you’re compatible.
Be humorous. Women LOVE a man with a sense of humor.But don’t offend her with some offputting dirty joke until you’re sure that she likes that sort of thing.
If you find you both have different opinions on matters (which is inevitable), don’t debate her to the point of fighting.There’s a fine line between discussing and arguing.
Be sensitive to her needs.
Be complimentary of her appearance.Very Important!
Unless she’s an insistent feminist, don’t go dutch.
Give her your utmost attention and interest.
If you’re having a good time, let her know it.
If anything embarassing happens (to her or to you),
don’t make a big deal out of it.

Don’t make calls on your cell phone while you’re out with her. Due to our advanced technological age, we must mention this. Talking on a cell phone is obnoxious enough in cars, supermarkets, and airports.But (emergencies aside) phoning somebody else while you’re on a date with HER is unforgiveable.
Romance her.No, that doesn’t mean slipping your hand under her bra when you kiss her goodnight (if she places it there, that’s another matter!). A woman likes to be wined, dined, appreciated, and feel like she is the “only woman in the room”. They love going out with a man who’s a real romantic, so do your best.But don’t rush anything (see the next tip).
If sex is mutually anticipated and acceptable to both parties, have fun.But don’t go out with a girl with the sole anticipation of getting laid.The majority of women are not looking for “one-nighters”. Don’t try to coax her into sex. If she’s really attracted to you, it will happen naturally.Maybe not on the first date, but eventually.
After your evening together is over, don’t lie to anybody else about the date and what actually happened. It ALWAYS gets back to the girl!

• A Little Erotic Talk

The following excerpt appears in the book, “Talk Sexy To The One You Love”, by Barbara Keesling: “Any woman who is lucky enough to know will tell you: Nothing is more exciting than having the man you love talk sexy to you. Nothing. The right words at the right time can start a fire burning inside of her that feels like it will never go out. It can make her breathless. Insatiable. Unstoppable. And it can do the same thing for the man.... Simple sentences such as, "I love to look at your body," "I want you," "I need you," or "I want to make love to you" can dramatically change the course of an evening, and sometimes, the course of an entire relationship. You've probably thought about saying things like this to your partner many times, but could you imagine actually doing it?”
Hot talk is a powerful turn-on for many people, and that’s an excellent reason to use it.It lets you communicate about sex without sounding too clinical.Communication in that way can only heighten the level of arousal between a man and a woman.
In the heat of your seduction, saying the right words at the right moment can make all the difference in the world.You must be careful, though.You don’t want to offend your woman by talking dirty if that’s something that might turn her off, nor do you want to risk her thinking that you only want her for sex (even if you do!).What you say depends on how well you know the woman and what has transpired between the two of you leading up to this very moment.
Say, for example, it’s your first date and you’ve both had a great evening together.There is obviously a mutual attraction.You take her home and the two of you begin kissing.Still, you’re not sure if she wants to sleep with you or not.If you don’t know for certain, don’t blurt out something like “I want to fuck you!”.Instead, say something romantic that appeals to her ego, like “You are so beautiful”.That will only make her hotter for you, which could take you to the next step.
It should be said that there is a difference between Erotic Talk and “Talking Dirty”.Talking Dirty is a more advanced form of sexual communication, using words that are rude, crude and naughty.Best to use this sort of talk when you KNOW that your partner doesn’t mind it.It can be a great way to arouse her, but only if she’s not offended or embarassed by the language.Until you’re comfortable with her (and she with you), keep your talk erotic, not dirty.As a relationship develops down the road, you can liven up the bedroom with whatever hardcore phrases you like.But don’t do it too early in the relationship… and not the first time you sleep with her.
If, however, she initiates the dirty talk, then it’s fairly obvious that she’s not offended using graphic language.You can then probably say just about anything to her that you want:“I’m gonna fuck you hard!”, “I wanna taste your pussy.”,“Yeah, suck my cock.”There’s no limit to the list of colorful phrases.
The best advice on talking dirty...If it turns her on, do it!

IV. Amazing Foreplay

• Kiss Like a Pro

A kiss is probably the most common gesture of affection between a man and a woman.It can also be one of the most intimate and erotic. Kisses can be anything from soft and tender to deep, passionate and even rough Surprisingly, a recent survey disclosed that 54% of women think that men are lousy kissers! So how can you improve your pucker? Here are some basic kissing tips that are sure to light her fire.

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.
Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.
Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss (usually men). But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.
Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.
Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

• How To French Kiss

One of love's most intimate moments is the French kiss. The French call this “the soul kiss”. In the most simplistic definition, it's a kiss with tongue! It’s the easiest way to feel close to someone, but can also be a huge turn-off if done incorrectly. So what is the right way?

To start, the mood should be right. You do not want to stumble over the other person at a local fast food restaurant and stick your tongue in his or her mouth. You want to wait for the right time, perhaps after you're already kissing and start to pull your bodies closer together.

Always start off with a regular kiss. Then, slowly start opening your mouth, while still keeping it dry! Using both of your lips, "hug" her bottom lip and close with another dry kiss. After a couple of these soft, affectionate smooches, SLOWLY slide part of your tongue into her mouth. In order to avoid a potential embarrassment, make sure their mouth is open before doing this! If she then opens her mouth more, that’s your cue that a more intense French kiss (more tongue) is OK. If not, just stick to a little bit of tongue and pull back occasionally to observe his/her reaction, while still giving him/her little "pecks."
MORE TONGUE:
If you're ready for full-on tongue action, keep a few things in mind that can turn a memorable kiss into a disaster. One is never let a wad of saliva accumulate in your mouth – swallow it! Two, don't turn your tongue into a sharp pointed object –relax it. Three, move your tongue on or around your woman’s tongue. The "dead slug" thing is a huge turn-off. Now with that in mind, and a good opportunity, keep sliding more of your tongue into her mouth until you are completely enveloped in each other. When you reach this point, try to keep your mouths a little tighter. This is just a way to avoid a messy or sloppy kiss. Remember; keep your tongues relaxed, but not your mouths. There's nothing worse than pulling away and feeling like a large dog has licked you.
As more opportunities come about, the better a French kiss will get. It takes time, and a bit of practice, but it will be easier each time. Don't overanalyze it or stress too much. Just relax and enjoy the moment!

• Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are those particular parts of the body, both male and female, that are highly sensitive to sexual arousal. Almost any part of the body can be sexual, especially when you’re intimate with your partner. But certain areas are extremely sensitive. These will vary among individuals, but rest assured that once you find them… good sex is not far behind!

Certainly the genitals would be considered an erogenous zone. This is true even more in men. Think about it… she slowly slips her hands down your pants, how can you NOT get aroused?? But for women, stimulation of almost any part of her body can be highly arousing. Many women can actually reach orgasm just by your touching her breasts or nibbling her earlobes. Also, women are highly sensitive to the touch of their skin… anywhere on their body. Even still, her sexual sensations (like the male) are most strongly felt in her genital area, primarily the clitoris.

Here are the prime Female Erogenous Zones to zero in on: Face, mouth, cheeks, eyelids, eyebrows, forehead Back of neck Earlobes Arms, armpits, inside of elbow, hands Breasts, nipples Abdomen, navel Genitals, inner lips, clitoris Back, base of her spine Perineum (area between her vagina and anus) Inner thigh area Buttocks Anus Feet and legs, back of knees

These are the Male Erogenous Zones: Face and neck, nape of neck, earlobes and lips Back, shoulders, and small of back Chest, nipples Hands, fingertips and palms Genitals, testes, scrotum Perineum (area between your penis and anus) Buttocks Anus Soles of feet Locating and stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones is part of the fun of foreplay. Not only will it excite her (making intercourse a foregone conclusion), but will definitely enhance your own personal sexual desire.

• Give an Erotic Massage

A massage is a terrific way to express love, to get close physically, and to progress to the next level of sexual satisfaction. Since the Erogenous Zones are all over the body, an erotic massage is the perfect forum for finding those particular spots and increasing the overall pleasure of your sexual encounter. You don’t need to master any techniques such as Shiatsu or Reflexology in order to give a good massage. All that’s required is the willingness to find out what feels good to your partner.
Here are 10 Steps to follow in Giving an Erotic Massage that she won’t forget:
1. Set the Mood. Soft lighting, scented candles, incense and romantic music all add to the erotic atmosphere you want to maintain. You may wish to turn off the phones. Keep your lubricants and towels nearby.
2. Find an area for your partner to lie down and get comfortable… whether it’s a massage table, a blanket on the floor, or on the bed. She may want a pillow under her head or under her hips.
3. Choose your lubrication. You should only use a water-based lubricant to avoid any vaginal infections (but avoid any lube containing Nonoxynol-9). You may wish to use oil that has a sexy scent, such as lavender or orange blossom. Aqua Lube Personal Lubricant, Water Based

4. Once you’ve chosen your lubrication, apply some to your hands and rub them together. This will warm both the oil and your hands, making the sensation more pleasurable for your partner.

5. Have her lie face down, naked. Relax her body and massage her by performing these Basic Massage Strokes. Sweeping Strokes: Best for massaging large body parts, such as the back. With open hands, use long, sensuous, sweeping strokes. Detailed Strokes: For smaller, more complicated parts, such as the shoulders, hands and feet. Movements should be firm and short. Avoid massaging areas where the bone is close to the skin.
Kneading: A smooth move for the hips and buttocks or other fleshy parts. Use the thumbs and forefingers of both hands to rhythmically squeeze and release the skin. Circling: A great basic stroke for such areas as the back and shoulders. Place both hands palm down and move them in opposing circles. Lean onto your hands when you want to add pressure.
You should start with a gentle back rub. Use Circling motions on the shoulder area. Move to the midback and use Sweeping strokes, letting the flats of your thumbs massage the spine. Finish off by Kneading her buttocks.
6. Massage her neck. Put a little oil on your hands and place them so that your fingers are pointing downward at the top of her chest and the flats of your thumbs are touching the back of her lower neck. Draw your hands outward over the shoulders and slide them around underneath the neck
7. Have her turn over. Massage her chest first by sliding the palm of your right hand diagonally across her right breast toward her left shoulder, then doing the same thing on the left side. Repeat 6 times on each side. Splash some oil and using the tip of your index finger, trace a spiral on her breast. Start on the outer edge and slowly make your way to the nipple.
8. Move to the abdomen and use soothing strokes. Then massage her arms and hands, slowly gliding down to her legs. You can brush the genitals in a teasing fashion, and draw this out by brushing her inner thighs. This will arouse your partner, leading to the next stage of erotic massage.
9. Now you can move on to Genital Massage. When performing this on a woman, you can still use your free hand to glide over the rest of her body, tease her nipples, massage her perineum, or caress her face. To begin, go to the clitoris and, with your lubricated finger, make circles around it softly and rhythmically. You can gage her reaction (and moans, hopefully) to determine if you need to move slower or faster.
10. If all is going well, you can slide your finger into the vagina and make rhythmic gestures. You can also rotate your fingers inside her vaginal barrel with even pressure against all areas of it. Be aware that the shape of the vagina changes as her arousal level increases. Keep stimulating the vagina and clitoris until she can’t take it anymore! Of course, she can reciprocate and give you an erotic massage at this point. In all likelihood though, she’s going to want to get straight to the hot sex. If you did your job correctly, who can blame her?!

• Exploring Her Nipples

If you’re a “Breast Man”, chances are you spend a great deal of time exploring and caressing her nipples.Since this is one of the Female Erogenous Zones (discussed earlier in this section), there can be a great deal of pleasure to be experienced by this action.Many men, however, haven’t got a clue about nips… and as a result, the woman ends up twiddling her thumbs and wishing that this foreplay stage would quickly progress to intercourse.
There ARE certain things that you can do in the “nipple arena” to make this a much more pleasurable experience for you.. and especially, her.Here are some tits, um tips, for heightening her pleasure while you’re visiting Nipple Territory:
Tender biting is fine, but chewing is a definite no-no.Lightly clasp a nipple in your teeth for a couple of seconds. Once you have a nipple in a tender bite, you can also do some very light pulling.
Use your tongue to lightly lick both the tip and surrounding nipple area.
Don’t pinch her nipples!Lightly use two fingers to “play” and/or tickle them.
Vary the technique.Move back and forth between her nipples and the actual breast. Moisture is another important factor.Her pleasure will be better heightened if the nipple is kept moist with saliva. Blowing on the nipple can also be enjoyable.Give intermittent blasts of “hot breath” followed by a cool whistle breeze.

• Finger Banging

Moving even further down south on her luscious body, we now come to the “Handjob” portion of the guidebook.Stimulating her manually is important, so here’s a 5-STEP PLAN to get her off better than ever:

1)BRING HER TO A BOIL, SLOWLY Don't go there until she's turned on. Lavish attention on her entire body: mouth, neck, breasts, stomach, thighs, etc. Move your hands softly in circles on her inner thighs and tummy, heading gradually inward and eventually brushing up against the jackpot.
2)EXAGGERATE HER MOVEMENTS Pay attention to her body language and she'll tell you what she likes without drawing a map. Watch her movements and exaggerate them for her. If she pushes up against you, press harder. If she pulls away, lighten up! When she starts wildly gyrating, it's safe to assume she's having a good time.
3)BE GENTLE Most men are too heavy-handed; use long, gentle strokes. To smooth the way, dip in for extra lubrication, or add lube or saliva. Remember that her love button can be sensitive, so don't overdo it.
4)BE CONSISTENT The prime complaint from the women we surveyed was inconsistency. Once you find a rhythm that works, keep it going. It's OK to make your strokes a little harder, but change at the very last minute and she could have all the physical signs of an orgasm (muscle spasms, heavy breathing, etc.) without the zing -- and then she'll want to split your head open with a shovel.
5)DON'T STOP TIL SHE GETS DONE Think back to your last blowjob. Do you want her to pull away the instant you've released the troops? Nope, and neither does she. She'll push you away or close her legs when she's had enough. And don't be offended by that. It's because her body is supersensitive after orgasm.

• Finding The G-Spot

You’ve heard about it, but what the hell is it?The G-Spot is a mysterious area inside the woman’s vagina that, when stimulated properly, can send her into a frenzy of orgasms.Many scholars have disputed the existence of this region, but it DOES exist!Though its sensitivity level may vary, every woman has a G-Spot.

The G-Spot was named after a German obstetrician in the 1940’s, Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, who described it as a tiny, bean-shaped area lying just behind the front upper wall of a woman’s vagina, about 1 ½ to 2 inches inside the vaginal opening.According to Dr. Grafenbert, “This erotic hotspot seems to be surrounded by erectile tissue like the corpora cavernosa (of the penis)… and in the course of sexual stimulation the female urethra begins to enlarge and can be easily felt.”It becomes, in essence, a tiny half-hidden female erection.
So where is it and how do you get there?!It takes a bit of practice to find, and you will really need to be able to read your partner’s reactions.Here are 2 Ways of Finding Her G-Spot:
Method One:
Have your woman lie on her stomach, legs apart, with her hips rotated slightly upward.Next you insert two fingers into her vagina, palm down, and start exploring the front wall of her vagina (the side closest to the bed).The G-Spot is buried under some layers of tissue, so it may take some pressure to stimulate the area.
Method Two:
Have her lie on her back, legs apart.Insert two fingers, palm up and explore the top side of her vagina.If you think of her vaginal area as a small clock with 12 o’clock pointing toward her naval, the G-Spot is located somewhere between 11 and 1 o’clock.
In either case, you should ask her to guide you by telling you what feels good.You should use firm pressure, not gentle strokes.Some doctors say that once you’ve found it, the woman will have a fleeting feeling that she needs to urinate.After 5 to 15 seconds of massage, though, the feelings turn to erotic pleasure.
Arousal of the G-Spot is usually much more effective if the woman is already sexually aroused.Make sure your nails are cut.It’s usually easier if you form your fingers into a hook while fingering her… as if you’re motioning for someone to come over to you.As stimulation of the area continues, the G-Spot will actually begin to swell.Continued stimulation may result in an orgasm that is very intense!
A woman can actually ejaculate from G-Spot stimulation.Chemically similar to a man’s ejaculate minus the sperm, a woman’s ejaculate is more watery.During ejaculation, the woman pushes out with her pelvic muscles and fluid spurts out of the urethra.A woman can ejaculate several times before or during orgasm.
Once you’ve found her elusive G-Spot, you can rest assured that she’ll want you to visit it a lot more often.I’m sure that’s a trip you certainly won’t mind taking!

• How To Eat A Beaver

Cunnilingus: Also referred to as Eating Out, Going Down, Muff Diving, Pussy Nibling, Cunt Sucking, Eating at the Y, and Breakfast in Bed.Call it what you will, cunnilingus is an oral technique that is one of the most sensuous and erotic forms of making love.In cunnilingus, the female genitals are stimulated with the mouth, in particular the tongue.Because the clitoris is so sensitive to arousal, kissing and caressing it can be extremely pleasurable for your partner.
Vaginas come in a variety of sizes, colors and shapes.Some are tucked inside, some have thick luscious lips, some are nested in fur, and others are covered with only a bit of fuzz.Whatever it looks like, be sure and tell her how beautiful it is.Because women respond more to verbal love than men, chances are good that you’ll get her off if you talk to her.While you’re petting and stroking her pussy, speak to her… and tell her what you want to do to it!
The inner and outer vaginal lips can be licked and sucked.The actual vagina can be penetrated with your tongue and her G-Spot can be stimulated.But the main part you want to focus on is the clitoris.Because the clitoris is super-sensitive, it’s best to go gently and work your way around it.Gently pull the lips apart, look at her inner lips, and lick them if you like.You’re gradually working your way to the clit.

Whenever touching her pussy, make sure that your finger is wet, either by licking it or by moistening it with her vaginal juices.You want the finger wet before you touch the clitoris because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own.Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry, which can be uncomfortable for her.
Know also that women love to be teased.You can achieve this well by focusing on her inner thigh… another highly sensitive area.Lick it,kiss it, come very close to her pussy, then move away.You’re making her anticipate it to the point of driving her crazy.Next lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy.Bury your face into her bush.Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her.She’ll moan and move her body in an effort to get more of you closer to her.That’s when you put your lips right on top of her slit.Kiss her, gently, then harder.
At this point, you should use your tongue to separate her pussy lips.When she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh.Slowly and gently, spread her legs apart even more.This really teases her because her whole blessed region is exposed to your whims.Look and notice if her clitoris has gotten hard enough to peek out of its covering.It it has, then lick it.Press into her skin.Gently puss the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit.This should be done with short, quick strokes.You may notice that her legs start shuddering.This is a good sign that she’s reaching the Point of No Return.
Now, make your lips into an “O” shape and take the clit into your mouth.Start to suck gently.If she handles it o.k., then start sucking harder.Monitor her reaction and go with it.If she begins to lift her pelvis into the air, move with her.. don’t fight her.Keep your mouth on her clit.Don’t let go. However, make sure that that your partner knows that she can give you input during all of this.Let her know that she can say, “Harder” or “Faster” or “Slower”… whatever gets her off.You may not want to overstimulate her to the point of orgasm.Many women want you to back off before they reach that point.By the same token, many women don’t.Again, just go with her.
One of the best ways to perform oral sex on her is to lay on your stomach with her knees pulled up near her stomach.This gives you the best position possible.And by all means, feel free to use your fingers while your mouth is busy.If you use your tongue the way she likes it, simultaneously use one or two of your wet fingers to “finger-fuck” her or stimulate her G-Spot.Slide them inside her, slowly at first, then a little faster.Fuck her with them rhythically.Again, go with her.
When she’s ready to cum, she’ll either stop you so that you can enter her (with your penis this time!), or she’ll give you the “keep going!” sign.If that’s the case, don’t let go of that clit.Keep your mouth there as she reaches her peak.Even as she’s coming down from the orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top.Dart your tongue in and out of her.
If you “go down on her” correctly, there is a great chance that she will experience multiple orgasms.Oral sex works wonders, especially when you take your time with it. If you ever wanted to make a sex slave out of her, this is your best shot to prove just what a great master you are. Do it right, and she’s yours for life.

• Helpful Clit Tips

As we just discussed, cunnilingus gives a woman some of the best stimulations… and orgasms! And the Number One area to focus on is the clitoris. Here are some more helpful tips to remember when you’ve got that beautiful clit staring you in the face:
The tip of the clitoris is the MOST sensitive spot (just like the head of the penis).The legs of the clitoris are under the inner lips.The legs CAN be licked, but are less sensitive.Concentrate on the tip.
Again, don’t head straight for the clitoris with your tongue. Here’s one tongue technique that works well.Stick your tongue between the folds of the labia and lick.Start at the perineum (found just below the vaginal opening) and lick upward in one long stroke, much like a cat does when it cleans itself. You can then either lick so that your tongue comes up and brushes over the clit or stop just short of it.
Another great stroke to tease her is lapping at the clit with a pointed tongue, like a cat lapping at milk would do.This stroke is best used when she’s very close to cumming and you want to push her over the edge. You can speed up the rate of the lapping or slow it down, or combine slow and fast in a rhythm of your choice.
How to find that ultra-sensitive spot on her clip? The spot varies from woman to woman, but every woman has one.To find hers, think of the clitoral tip as a clock.Using the tip of your tongue, stroke her tip at 12, 2, 6, and9 o’clock.Don’t worry, she’ll let you know when you’re on it. Once you’ve found it, stay there!Stroke it with short strokes. She’ll love it.
There may come a point when the clitoris is so overstimulated that it’s just too sensitive to touch.More than likely, she’ll let you know.

• Finger Techniques

Here are a few techniques involving your fingers that are ideal for stimulating her pussy.These are, in essence, masturbation techniques to perform on her.Whether performed by her alone or with the fingers of her male lover, they all have great track records with getting women off: Rolling Method Make sure that your fingers and/or the clitoris is wet.Place your thumb and forefinger around her clit and gently roll it between your fingers.Begin slowly with a very gentle roll, and then gradually increase the pace and pressure according to what feels good to her. Circular Rub If you want to get her off fast, try this one! Take two fingers and place them over the top of her clit and begin moving them in a circular motion.Vary the speed and pressure, moving faster and harder.Again, make sure your fingers and her clitoris are wet. Clit-Tap Pull her pussy lips back out of the way so that the clitoris is very exposed.With your index finger, lightly begin tapping the fingertip gently on the clit.This produces a very nice sensation that starts building up.Tapping alone probably won’t get her off, but will bring her to a point where more direct stimulation will cause her to explode! In-Out/Rub Technique Simulate sex by thrusting your fingers in and out of her pussy. Let her clit slip between two of your fingers in one hand, and tap or rub the exposed part of her clit with the other hand.

• All About Analingus

One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing. A word of caution:the anus and rectum carry many diseases that live benignly in the lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing anilingus is very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Analingus is really only recommended to very sexually open people. If your partner enjoys ass play with your finger, than there's no doubt she'll enjoy your oral efforts as well, just as any girl who enjoys fingering also enjoys it when men go down on her. The real difficulty is for the partner who gives the pleasure. Needless to say this can only be attempted directly after a shower for hygienic purposes, then it's really no different than kissing any part of the body. If you do attempt analingus, you'll be gratified to know that it DRIVES GIRLS CRAZY! You won't ever really be totally concentrating on the anus, only licking the outside with your tongue when eating out your partner. Not an easy one to tackle from a mental perspective but made much easier if your partner has a great looking ass.Here are some basic recommendations regarding analingus: Shower, NO two ways about his one..if you do this without a shower you've got serious balls man and we want to meet you! Lick the anus in the same ways you would stimulate the clitoris. Analingus usually is only an extension of eating out, so brush up on your diving tips. Again the more things you combine the better it will feel. If you just eat out the girls anus it won't be as pleasurable as combining it with vaginal play as well. The same applies to the use of fingers.

For the ULTIMATE in analingus, combine all four techniques. eating out while stimulating both the anus, and the vagina with your fingers at the same time...And then from time to time slipping up to the anus with your mouth..all the while continuing to finger your partner vaginally. Phew! not easy, but guaranteed to please your partner even beyond the feeling of mere sexual intercourse...

• Foreplay Do’s and Don’t’s

Now that we’ve given you a whole section on the techniques of amazing foreplay, here are some Important Foreplay Do’s and Don’t’s that you’ll want to keep in mind:
Always kiss her first. Don’t stampede toward the clitoris, or you’ll make her feel like a whore.Kissing is the best way to get her juices flowing, so make it long, passionate and imaginative.You can certainly apply the French Kiss here, as well as nibbling lightly and sucking on her lips. Hold her face in your hands, play with her hair… be romantic!
Whisper Sweet Nothings.Yes, it really works.Women love to hear how sexy they are and how much they turn you on.
Don’t pressure her.Unless she’s into domination, barking orders is not going to arouse her.Take your time and both of you enjoy the moment.
Watch the tongue!Tonguing and French Kissing are both great, but don’t jam your tongue down her throat so deep that she gags.
No hickeys.What is this, the junior prom?Kiss, lick, and caress her neck, but don’t leave mark marks.
Nibble her ears.Trust us on this one!It never fails.
Take your time undressing her.Don’t rip her clothes off like you’re playing “Beat the Clock”.Women love to be teased as much as men.Drag out the anticipation of erotic pleasure yet to come.
An Erotic Massage is always nice.Women love to be rubbed and massaged.Dousing her with warm oil only adds to the sexiness she’s already feeling. Work your fingers into her flesh and spend a little extra time on the butt.
No Nipple-Biting.As we mentioned earlier, there’s a right way and a wrong way to handle a woman’s chest.Chewing and suckling are not turn-ons.. they’re downright painful.Also remember that many women are sensitive about their breasts, so be complimentary.Even is she’s small in that area, compliment the beauty of her chest.
Go Downtown more often.Women love it, but only if it’s done well.You should be excited about doing it (if you’re not, she won’t be either).Start with your fingers and progress to the tongue.Focus on the whole pussy area, not just the Golden Spot.Use variations… don’t just stick your finger in her vagina and wiggle it.You can also use your other hand to caress her thighs, her butt, her breasts.Also, be aware of your facial stubble and long sharp nails that might cause her discomfort.
Be aware of when NOT to go downtown!She’ll probably let you know when she’s on her period, but look for telltale tampon signs.Of course, some men like performing oral sex during a woman’s time of the month (personally not our cup of tea!), but that’s a decision to be made by you… and her.
No fisting!Maybe she likes this sort of thing, but NEVER presume anything about a woman where sex is concerned.Especially something like this.
Be courteous during fellatio.When it’s your turn to receive oral sex, here are three things to remember- (1) most women don’t like it when you grab their head or hair and hold it in your cock region, (2) don’t ram your dick down her throat like a battering ram, and (3) let her know if you’re about to cum.Yes, many women love to swallow.. even still, give her the option of choosing whether or not she wants to drink your love juices.On the same subject, don’t cum on her face or in her hair.
Use toys at your discretion.If things are progressing swiftly, you may not want to take the time to pull out the dildo.At this point, she may want the “real thing”, not some battery operated piece of plastic.On the other hand, many women (and men!) love to be stimulated with vibrators, wands and pocket rockets.Again, this needs to be a mutual decision.
Nothing too kinky.If you don’t know her or her sexual tastes, it’s probably best if you don’t bring out the whips, the sheep, or whatever twisted things you’ve got in your closet.Making her wear a collar or peeing on her definitely will NOT score you any points.
So, had enough foreplay? Ready to get on to the serious stuff? Next section…

V. Great Sex Tips

• Sexual Positions

So many positions, so little time! One of the primary reasons for trying new positions is to keep things interesting with your partner. Also to figure out new ways to keep from ejaculating too soon. Here are a selection of Sexual Positions, some very common. . some you may not have tried. By the numbers, there are Six basic positions from which all variations spring. We mention some of the pros and cons of each position, as well as give a variety of variations on each that you can try: MAN ON TOP (“Missionary Position”)

Get a good lube to help move things along.

Still the most commonly used position in the world.

Pros:
Allows man to dominate the woman
Allows deep penetration by the man
Allows better stimulation of the clitoris
Allows eye-to-eye contact
Good for women who like to be “taken by a man”
Best position if your goal is pregnancy
Cons:
Man tends to ejaculate rapidlyWoman has less control and less ability to move sensuouslyWoman tends to be squashedCan be tiring on the man’s back and shoulders
Variations Woman keeps her legs down straight between yours, narrowing the vaginal opening and increasing the friction on both the penis and the clitoris.
Woman is on her back and man is upright, but with his knees widely spread. Her legs lay over his thighs so that he’s lifting her pelvis up a little. This improves penetration. Woman lies on her back with man on top, but one of her legs is drawn across his stomach and extended to the side (so that the man is almost lying on the back of her thigh). He then enters her at an angle that’s halfway from the side, halfway from the rear. Woman spreads her legs and bends her knees, allowing for deeper penetration. Woman puts her legs on your shoulders for deeper penetration. Woman bends her legs so that her knees are laying against your chest. Or she can have one leg bent on your chest and the other to the side, stretched out straight. Put a pillow beneath her butt to raise your angle of entry. Her legs can either be spread wide or her knees bent with the soles of her feet touching. (Rolling Tickle Position) Man sits and kneels with his penis inside her. Woman has her knees pulled up to her chest, with her feet flat on his chest. The man then moves in and out while she rolls her hips up and down. This provides a good opportunity to stimulate her G-spot WOMAN ON TOP

Pros:
Allows woman to be in control
Best position if man is heavy or overweight
Allows deep penetration, but regulated by woman
Cons:
Not good for men who like to be in controlMight be uncomfortable for man, though not usually
Variations:Woman faces you, while kneeling, sitting or squatting on your penis.
Woman sits on you facing your feet, using her hands to push herself up and down. She can also lie down flat with her back on your chest, with her legs together to keep your penis inside. (Swooping Shakti Position) Woman squats over the man’s erect penis, facing forward, then lowers herself onto it. She moves up and down, keeping the penetration shallow, then goes deep. Woman kneels on top of you, facing forward. She can lean way back, supporting her weight with her hands on your thighs or lower legs. Woman squats on you, then closes her legs firmly and begins moving her hips in a churning, circular motion.

REAR ENTRY (“Doggie Position”)
Pros:
Good for guys who are “Ass Men”, allowing them to enjoy her backsideAllows man freedom to move and caress her body

Comfortable position for pregnant womenGood position to reach her G-Spot

Cons:
Sometimes difficult to keep penis inside her. No direct clitoral stimulation by man Variations:Woman is entered while you’re both standing up or laying down flat, kneeling or sitting.
Woman gets down on her hands and knees on the edge of the bed and you approach her from a standing position. (Piercing Tiger Position) Woman gets down on her knees and forearms so that her buttocks are raised. Man kneels behind her, controlling the action by moving her waist and hips

SIDE-BY-SIDE
Pros:
Allows face-to-face contactPosition of bodies is more intimateHands of both partners are free to stroke and caress each otherGood position if woman is pregnant or man is heavyClitoris can be easily stimulatedNot tiringGood for two people who are mismatched in height or weight Cons:Sometimes difficult getting into this positionSometimes difficult keeping penis in the vagina
Variations:Both man and woman face each other. (Spoon Position) Man and woman face the same direction. Sort of like Rear Entry Position, except that you’re on your side. (Scissors Position) Woman lies on her back and you lie beside her on your side. If you’re right-handed, lie on your left side. She raises her right leg and you pass your right leg between her, making a kind of scissors with your legs and entering her vagina from the side.

SITTING
Pros:
Close and intimate positionSometime relaxingPartners can caress each other’s bodiesNot too strenuousAllows man to delay ejaculation

Cons:
Free movement is sometimes difficultDeep thrusting is hard to achieve
Variations:Sit on a chair with your partner straddling your legs, facing you.
Woman sits facing away from you. She sets the pace by raising and lowering with her feet. Woman sits across your lap, with legs dangling to the side. You can reach her clitoris easily, and she gets an odd sideways angle of your penis. Woman straddles man, face to face, in a char. Then she falls all the way back, putting her head on a pillow on the floor.

STANDING
Pros:
Offers sense of challenge and excitement
Cons:
Difficult to get in positionRequires a lot of agility and balanceCan affect sexual performance Not really an “intimate” position
Variations:Man leans with his back against the wall, the woman facing him, sitting on his joined-together hands with her arms around his neck. She moves herself by extending her legs and putting her feet against the wall.
To extend the pleasure, try performing it in water. (Standing Shiva Position) Woman lies on her back on a table, with her vagina at the edge of the table. Man stands between her thighs and enters her while she hooks her feet over his shoulders and in this way adjusts the position of his penis. Good way to reach her G-spot.

• Thrusting Techniques!

No matter if you’re a sexual novice or the greatest stud that ever lived… if you can learn and perform proper Thrusting Techniques, your female partner’s ecstacy will be doubled, even tripled! These ancient sexual techniques were developed by the Taoist sages, who realized that correct thrusting motions would not only enhance a woman’s pleasure during intercourse, but also help the man control his ejaculation.
The basic principle is this: a man must develop a certain rhythm while penetrating the woman with Deep Thrusts and Shallow Thrusts. The depth and the angle of these thrusts stimulates the female, while allowing the man to last for a prolonged period of time.
NINE SHALLOW, ONE DEEP
This is the most common of the Taoist Thrusting Techniques, and lays the foundation for other sets of Thrusting sequences which you can perform. First of all, make sure that your female partner is significantly aroused before you enter her (this is where the section on Foreplay comes in handy). Her natural lubrication makes these thrusts much more pleasurable.
Enter her slowly, and thrust with very Shallow movements. Your penis should only go about halfway inside of her, just beneath her pubic bone. Take your time with these thrusts! This will only heighten her anticipation. Continue for a total of 9 Shallow Thrusts.
You’re setting the stage for Thrust #10, which is a Deep Thrust. This is the one that will send her over the edge. Push your penis all the way inside her. It doesn’t have to be too forceful… you can work into that later.
You then repeat the same sequence. Nine Shallow Thrusts, followed by one Deep Thrust. What this does is create a sort of vacuum inside her vagina. When you thrust deep, it pushes all of the air out. The Shallow Thrusts then greatly stimulate her vaginal wall. Try not to pull the penis out completely… you want to maintain that “suction” feeling. These Shallow Thrusts are great because they keep you from cumming too soon. The head of your penis, which is the most sensitive part, is not rubbing quite as much against the vagina wall, lessening your chance of being stimulated to the point of orgasm.
Another good thing about Shallow Thrusts: you’re more likely to hit her G-Spot. This incredibly sensitive area (see “Foreplay” section) is about one inch inside her vagina on the upper wall, so the head of your penis is right in the vicinity it needs to be.
The thing to keep in mind when performing these Thrusting Techniques is to establish a rhythm and speed that works for both you and your partner. Don’t get caught up in counting each thrust to the point that your motions start becoming mechanical. Once you’ve mastered the “Nine Shallow, One Deep” Thrusts, you can reduce the number of Shallow Thrusts to, say Six Shallow, One Deep”, then “Five Shallow, One Deep”, and so forth. The more you learn to control your ejaculation, the less shallow thrusting you can do.

THE “KEEP IT DEEP” THRUST
This thrusting movement, called the “Up-Down” Deep Thrust by the Taoists, also helps you hold out longer and simultaneously makes the female reach orgasm more quickly. Essentially, you keep your penis deep inside her- no shallow thrusts- and thrust up and down. The base of your penis is stimulating her clitoris while you do this. Since the clitoris is her most sensitive spot, it heightens her lovemaking experience.
The “Keep It Deep” Thrust is especially good when she finally does climax. Women love to feel a man deep inside of them when they orgasm. Not only is your penis far within her for this thrust, but the clitoral stimulation from the base of your penis adds a whole other level of pleasure.

VARYING YOUR THRUSTS
As you become more comfortable with the thrusting techniques, you can then start varying the depth and direction of your thrusts. Don’t just keep your movements “up, down, up, down”. Work every angle and touch every part of her vagina. Left and right, up and down, and so forth. Women have other sensitive areas in the walls of their vaginas, and “exploring” her entire inner region is bound to stimulate a few of those spots. The more your penis “learns its way around” her vaginal area, the more you’ll discover those pleasure zones that will drive her crazy.

NINE TAU THRUSTS
For even more variations of these thrusts (and you will probably discover your own), we go to the ancient Tau teachings of Li Tung-hsuan Tzu. As long ago as the 7th Century, he wrote about Nine different kinds of Thrusting Movements. These vary in the speed you thrust, the direction and the depth of penetration. Take note of the analogies that he used to describe each one. They may sound silly, but they really CAN create a picture in your mind that you can use when you’re actually performing them:
1. Thrust left and right like a soldier breaking through enemy ranks.
2. Rise, then suddenly plunge like a wild horse bucking through a stream.
3. Push in and pull out like a flock of seagulls playing on the waves.
4. Use deep thrusts and shallow teasing strokes, like a sparrow plucking pieces of rice.
5. Make shallow thrusts, followed by deep thrusts in steady succession from left to right, like a large stone sinking into the ocean.
6. Push in slowly like a snake entering a hole.
7. Charge quickly like a frightened mouse entering a hole.
8. Hover, then strike like an eagle catching an elusive rabbit.
9. Rise up, then plunge down low like a sailboat in the wild wind.

THE CIRCLE THRUST
To really put all the thrusting techniques to work, as well as incorporate the use of hip movement (many guys really enjoy the “screwing” motion that it represents), you’re going to use a circling motion as you enter her. Essentially, when the penis enters the vagina, you’re going to move your entire hip region either clockwise or counterclockwise (you can always switch back and forth between the two).
As you make your Shallow Thrusts, keep the circling movements going so that your penis is “playing” with one side of her vagina, then the other side. When you make your Deep Thrust, same thing… one side, then the other. Continue with the Shallow/Deep Thrusts that we discussed, but keep the circular movements going… little circles, big circles, left side, right side.
The Circle Thrust, if performed correctly, will feel very good to you as you explore every inch of her vagina. It will feel even better to her. You may have a little more trouble holding back from ejaculation with this technique (it feels too good!), but you can work up to it as you start controlling your orgasms a little better. The PC Exercises will help with this.

• 15 Things NEVER Do in Bed!

The following recommendations come from a leading sex expert. If you’re guilty of doing even ONE of these, you risk being thrown out of bed and sent to the living room couch!
DON'T mention other women.
DON’T criticize.
DON'T talk about the big presentation you have to give tomorrow.
DON'T attempt sex while she's asleep.
DON'T push her head down. You wouldn't like it, would you?
DON'T ask why she's taking so long.
DON'T put her in ludicrous positions. Even if they are in the Kama Sutra!
DON'T ask her if she came. If you can't figure it out, don't ask.
DON'T scratch yourself, belch or fart. Man descended from ape, but there's no need to remind her.
DON'T ask if you're bigger and better than her other boyfriends. Do you really want to know? DON'T try anal without her permission and say you slipped.
DON'T fall asleep after 10 seconds.
DON'T jump in the shower right after... unless you bring her with you. DON'T make her sleep in the wet spot. Be fair and take turns.
DON'T say "I love you" -- Unless you mean it.

• 5 Ways To Make Her Orgasm

You can now apply all of the knowledge you’ve accumulated. Using both foreplay and sexual techniques, as well as the use of your fingers, tongue and penis…. Here are the Five Best Ways to make her orgasm:
1) Clittage (clitoral massage) Continuous clitoral stimulation (Clitoral Massage or “clittage”) is the key to orgasm for women. Do clittage to orgasm throughout sex. Doing clittage during intercourse also makes a women come as easily as men from intercourse.
Follow these simple steps:
Apply water-based lubricant to the fingers.
Find the right spot. Every woman has one. To find the right spot, think of the clitoral tip as a clock and try 12, 3, 6, and 9 o'clock.
Do the Clit-a-Whirl. Move the clitoral tip back and forth in short, quick strokes, up and down and around. Vibrate the tip, don't press it.
Don't stop! Stay on the spot all the way to orgasm.
2) Cunnilingus The tongue is great for stimulating the clitoral tip.
Find the right spot with the tip of the tongue and stroke it.
Stay there and keep going to orgasm.
3) Stroking the Orgasmic Crescent The clitoris and G-Spot together make up the orgasmic crescent, which is the most orgasmic part of a woman - equivalent to the man's penis. Stroking the clitoris and G-Spot together at the same time can give a woman strong orgasms.
Follow these simple steps: Stimulate the tip of the clitoris with fingers or tongue. Find the G-Spot. When erect with clitoral stimulation, the G-Spot makes the upper wall of the vagina bulge out. Insert 2 fingers approximately 2 inches inside the vagina and press against the vagina wall.
Stroke it. Stroke the G-Spot with a "come here" motion or by thrusting them towards the upper wall.
4) Clittage Intercourse: Clittage makes intercourse as orgasmic for women as it is for men. Men need to use their hands and their penis.
Follow these simple steps:
Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers, using lube.
Stroke the G-Spot halfway inside, point the penis toward the upper vaginal wall and stroke the G-Spot with short strokes.
Stimulate the cul-de-sac. With a full erection, a woman's cervix lifts up and opens up the end of the vagina. The head of the penis slips into the cul-de-sac. Press the head of the penis against the cul-de-sac to produce powerful orgasms.
Delay male ejaculation. A man can learn to control ejaculation for longer intercourse and multiple orgasms
(See Section Three).
5) Vibrator Intercourse A vibrator and a dildo or penis together is a surefire orgasm-producer. Do clittage with a plug-in vibrator (the Hitachie Wand is recommended). Stroke the G-Spot and cul-de-sac with a dildo or penis. Use lube.

• Triple Her Orgasms!

This might sound complicated, but those who have played the game swear by it. The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) supposedly triples her chance of orgasm and gives you a better chance of having the simultaneous orgasm you thought only happened in the movies.

Start in the missionary position, but then shift your hips a few inches up her body. This gives you a shallower penetration, and the shaft of your penis pushes up against all of her important parts. Resting your full weight on her, wrap her legs around yours, and synchronize your horizontal dancing so that your pelvic bone rubs against hers.
Maintain a steady pace and have two pairs of industrial strength earplugs handy for the "Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, OH MY GOD" finale.

• Initiating Anal Sex

Easing a woman into anal sex can be difficult. Many women dislike anal sex, even the NOTION of anal sex, simply because they believe it hurts. This, however, should not be the case. The two fundamental key things to remember about anal sex are lubrication and tenderness. The anal region has many nerve endings just like the vagina or penis, so it have a vast potential for pleasure. Pressure and fullness in the rectum feels good to some women, just like fullness in the vagina. Deep penetration can also stimulate the G-Spot. Before attempting anal sex with your partner, make sure that (1) she’s agreeable to it, and (2) she’s the one in control. Unless she’s completely relaxed and you’re taking it easy, it really can hurt. But if performed correctly, she may be surprised by the extremely strong sexual sensation that it can provide. A good male lover can make the woman climax in anal sex by stimulating her genitals with his hand. Anal sex is also great for spicing up a boring sex life. Although anal sex is generally associated with roughness and harshness, it should in fact be loving and gentle. Lubricants are highly recommended for anal sex. Stick with a water-based lubricant! A good quality water soluble lubricant must ALWAYS be used. Never apply a vaseline-type petroleum jelly. It’s also recommended that you use a condom, even if you’re certain she has no disease. Due to natural reasons, there are a lot of bacteria in her anal region that can make the penis swell and catch infection. You should realize that anal tissue is thinner and more delicate than highly elastic vaginal tissue. Lengthy foreplay is essential to ease your partner into a state of relaxation. Any anxiety she has can cause her to reflexively clinch her sphincters, which contracts the anus and make entry difficult or painful. While in a sensual mood, after a round of foreplay or regular sex, you might start off by slowly sliding a well-lubricated finger inside her ass. Move it slowly, slide it in and out.. allow her to adjust to the feeling and relax. Consider the size of your penis relative to your finger. You might allow her to adjust to two fingers, after starting off with one. Obviously fingernails should be short and smooth, without sharp edges. When you think she’s accepting of a penis inside her anus, either partner should gently apply lubricant along the crack of her anus, and slowly work it into the crevice. Then the man should put the tip of his well-lubricated penis at her anus and SLOWLY penetrate it. Hold it there! Allow her to breathe deeply and relax. When she’s ready, let her bear down on you. Hold still until she gets used to it. With regard for the woman’s comfort, thrusting should be gentle and slow. Take your time, make no quick movements, and it will work greatly. Urge her to speak up at the slightest discomfort. The actual act should not be very long, at least until her body is used to the activity. With time, her ass will get used to the thrusting and feel much more comfortable during anal sex.

NOTE: Which position you use for anal sex is best left to the woman’s discretions. Many women prefer to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Or she may rather lie on her stomach or side, or be penetrated doggie style. Let her decide.

• Top 15 Fantasies

A popular adult magazine recently published the Top 15 Fantasies that men like to play out with their lovers. We list them here for anyone looking to spice up their sex life with a little “pretend”. And I’m sure with a little imagination, you can think of plenty more on your own!
Having sex in a public place. Having sex with more than one or a multitude of partners.

Having sex in a place in which there is a risk of getting caught.

Having sex out in nature or some other appealing setting.

Man being sexually taken or dominated by the woman (including S & M).

Man taking, possessing or dominating the woman (also rape fantasies).Having sex with a prostitute or “bad girl”.

Having sex with a virgin or “good girl”.

Having sex with a forbidden or inappropriate partner, for example, a nun.

Having sex with an underage person (eg., Teacher/Student, Babysitter Fantasies).

Having sex with a celebrity or fictional character.

Having sex that includes a focus on specific articles of clothing, food, or a part of the body not usually associated with lovemaking.

Having sex with your best friend’s wife or similar “adultery” fantasies.

Having sex with a member of your own sex. (Note: Many confirmed heterosexuals occasionally have homosexual fantasies, even if they have no wish to act on them in real life.)

Having sex with a deity or spiritual leader.

Better Sexual Health

• Good Reproductive Health

Fertility is another issue that we must address. We seldom think about the actual health of our sperm, but it certainly must be considered by any man who plans to have children. You should consider your fertility and be very protective of it.

Here are some things that you can do to safeguard and enhance your reproductive health, as well as protect the well-being of your future children:
Quit smoking. Cigarette smoking is linked to low sperm counts, and research shows a 64% increase in miscarriages when both partners smoke or just when the man smokes.
No marijuana. Long-term use of this drug also results in a low sperm count among men, as well as sperm that exhibits abnormal patterns of development.
Cut down on alcohol. Chronic alcohol abuse damages your reproductive system, which reduces your ability to produce normally-formed sperm cells.
Increase your daily dose of Vitamin C. Low levels of Vitamin C may cause your sperm to clump together, rendering almost 16% of all men infertile.
Watch your nutrition. If you're malnourished or not getting enough of the proper foods and nutrients, your sperm count could suffer.
No intense exercising. Men who exercise excessively can reduce their sperm count due to the heat that builds up around the testicles during an overly-strenuous workout.
Keep your scrotum cool. It's true what they say... excessive heat in the scrotal area can result in lower sperm count volume. Wear loose-fitting underwear, and avoid tight jockey shorts and jogging pants. Also avoid hot tubs, hot baths, saunas, or hot work environments.
Stay clear of environmental poisons and hazards, including pesticides, insecticides, lead, ionizing radiation, heavy metals and toxic chemicals.
Finally, abstain from sex. Brief periods of sexual restraint (three to six days) will increase both the volume and potency of semen. Don't abstain for long periods, though! Prolonged abstinence results in higher volume of older sperm, which exhibit decreased mobility.
Be more knowledgable about your health in general. Look out for yourself.. and your future "chip off the old block".

• Give Yourself a Self-Exam

Testicular cancer primarily strikes men between the ages of 20 and 34, with Caucasian men being the most vulnerable. Fortunately though, this cancer can be detected early through self-exams, and when treated promptly, has a 93% cure rate. Here's how to give yourself a testicular self-exam:

The best time to do this is during or after a warm shower, when your scrotal sac is relaxed. Check one testicle at a time. Put your index and middle fingers of both hands under the testicle, and rest your thumbs on top. Gently roll the testicle between the thumbs and fingers and feel for any small lumps. Also feel for swelling or hardening of the entire testicle.

Though it's common for one testicle to be larger than the other, take note if one seems larger than normal. Other signs to watch out for: a dull ache in the lower abdomen or groin, pain or discomfort in the testicle or scrotum, or fluid in the scrotum. If any of these symptoms last as long as 2 weeks, call your doctor.

If you need any more information, you can call the National Cancer Institute at 1-800-422-6237 or call the American Cancer Society at 1-800-227-2345.

• Treating Genital Herpes

The Herpes Simplex Virus affects the genital and anal areas (and occasionally the mouth). It is passed through genital and oral-genital contact. When this illness does appear, it is often confused with other conditions, such as the flu or jock itch. However,a sure sign of herpes is an “outbreak”, a flare-up of red bumps on the genitals or buttocks that turns into painful blisters. The symptoms of Genital Herpes may include: Small, painful blisters that form in the genital or anal area which burst to leave red ulcers. These usually heal within one to two weeks.
A stinging, tingling or itching sensation in the genital or anal area. Cold sores on the mouth.
General flu-type symptoms such as headache, backache, fever or swollen glands.
Though more common in women, there may be a pain or burning sensation when urinating. No direct cure for Herpes has yet been found, but there are various remedies which can ease the symptoms and help to ward off the attack. Antibiotics such as Acyclovir can be effective. Also, herpes vaccines are being tested.

Abreva Cold Sore/Fever Blister Treatment
Try Abreva for helping to shorten the healing time and duration of symptoms

• Treating Genital Warts

Genital warts affect around 2 million Americans a year. These warts belong to a type of virus called the human papilloma virus, and are spread through unprotected vaginal, oral or anal sex. The warts look like small bumps or cauliflower-like clusters, and appear on the genitals, the anus or in the throat or urethra. Once a person has been infected by the virus, it can take anywhere from 2 weeks to a year for the warts appear. They often itch, but are seldom painful.
There are a number of treatments available for genital warts. They can be treated by painting them with a liquid called Podophyllin, several applications which are necessary. There are also other ointments which work. You can also freeze the warts with liquid nitrogen, use laser therapy to burn off the warts, or use cauterization treatments.
It should be noted that even though the outer wart can be easily removed, the virus remains within the skin layers. Because of this, usually more than one treatment application may be needed to fully get rid of the warts.

• Safe Sex and Condoms

Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) is believed to be caused by a virus called HIV, which weakens the immune system and makes the body less able to fight infection. A person who is HIV+ (tests positive for HIV antibodies) may have no symptoms, or may have opportunistic infections such as certain cancers or pneumonia. There is currently no cure for AIDS, but it can often be controlled with drugs. HIV+ people may be symptom-free for years, and people with AIDS may live for years with the disease.
In the age of AIDS, everyone should know about safer sex HIV can infect anyone, regardless of sexual orientation, sex, age, race, or economic class. While the incidence of AIDS is much higher in some populations than in others, it is not who you are that can give you AIDS, but what you do.
Only you can decide what kind of sex is right for you and what risks you will take. Some people take all possible precautions with every partner for their own peace of mind and so they do not have to rely on others for their safety. Others choose to forgo some or all precautions depending on their relationships and lifestyle. "Low Risk'' Myths
You cannot tell whether someone is infected by their appearance or lifestyle. Most HIV+ people do not look sick and may pass on the virus unintentionally. ``Nice people'' can and do get AIDS. Marriage, long-term relationships, and monogamy are no guarantee against AIDS if one partner has been previously infected. AIDS was recognized in 1981; the virus has been around even longer. A common rule of thumb is that a negative HIV test is not reliable unless the person was tested at least six months after he or she had engaged in any unsafe activity. One unprotected encounter with an infected person is enough to transmit the virus. Sexual Orientation Men who have sex with men account for most U.S. AIDS cases. People who have sex with members of the opposite sex make up a growing proportion, especially among women, urban populations, and IV drug users; in several countries heterosexual sex is the primary means of AIDS transmission. Women who have sex with women account for a small number of cases. The labels gay, lesbian, heterosexual, and bisexual are not reliable indicators of sexual behavior. Some gay men and lesbians have sex with the opposite sex, some heterosexuals have sex with the same sex, and bisexuals may have sex with either, both or neither sex. Current self-identification does not indicate past sexual activity.
WHAT ACTIVITIES ARE RISKY?
The highest amounts of HIV are found in blood and semen. HIV is present in smaller amounts in vaginal and cervical fluid (especially if a woman has a vaginal or cervical infection). Recent studies show that pre-cum does contain HIV, although it is debated whether it is enough to transmit AIDS. There are no studies of the amount of HIV in female ejaculate. Very little HIV is present in saliva, sweat, and tears; these almost certainly cannot transmit AIDS. Anal and vaginal intercourse account for most documented cases of sexually transmitted AIDS, while oral sex accounts for a few cases. Other activities have not been shown to cause AIDS, but theoretically could present some risk because they can allow HIV-containing body fluids to get from one person to another. Studies show that HIV may be absorbed directly by cells in the mucous membranes. The safest activities are those that avoid any way in which HIV-infected blood, semen or vaginal fluid can get from one person's body to another person's mucous membranes or bloodstream.

HIGH RISK
Unprotected anal intercourse
Unprotected vaginal intercourse
Sharing needles (for drugs, piercing)
Sharing implements that draw blood (whips, knives)
Unprotected oral sex on a menstruating woman
Unprotected oral sex on a man with ejaculation
Unprotected oral-anal contact
Getting urine or feces in mouth, vagina, ass
Unprotected fisting or finger fucking
Unprotected oral sex on a man without ejaculation
Unprotected oral sex on a non-menstruating woman
Sharing uncovered sex toys
Anal intercourse with a condom
Vaginal intercourse with a condom
Oral sex on a man using a condom
Oral sex on a woman using a latex barrier
Oral-anal contact using a latex barrier
Fisting or finger fucking using a glove
Petting, manual-genital contact
Deep (French) kissing
Spanking, whipping that does not break the skin
Bondage and discipline play
Masturbation (alone or with partner)
Hugging, touching
Massage
Talking dirty, phone or net sex, fantasy

NO RISK
Sexual activities fall on a continuum from high risk to risk-free. Activities at the top carry a high risk of HIV transmission (especially for the receptive partner). Upper-middle range activities carry a minimal or indeterminate risk. Lower-middle range activities carry a theoretical risk. Activities at the bottom are completely safe.

SAFER SEX TIPS
Use latex condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse. Use a water-based lubricant (K-Y, Astroglide, Probe); oil-containing products (Crisco, Vaseline, baby oil, lotion, whipped cream) can destroy latex. A drop of lube inside the condom may increase sensitivity. Don't use saliva as a lubricant.

Other contraceptive devices do not protect against AIDS. Products containing Nonoxynol-9 (a spermicide) can kill HIV and may provide extra protection, but should not be relied on alone. Some studies show that Nonoxynol-9 can cause genital irritation that may promote HIV infection, especially with very frequent intercourse. The effects of ingesting Nonoxynol-9 are unstudied.

Blood-to-blood contact is the most direct route of HIV transmission. Sharing needles (for drugs, steroids, piercing or tattooing), razors, or any implement that draws blood is dangerous since blood may be left on used implements. Clean needles by rinsing several times with bleach then with water. Avoid contact with blood in s/m scenes. Whips or knives that break the skin should not be used on another person until disinfected with bleach or a cleaning solution.

Use an unlubricated condom for oral sex if a man will come in your mouth. For oral sex on a woman or oral-anal sex (rimming), use a dental dam (latex square), a condom or latex glove cut to produce a flat sheet, or non-microwaveable food wrap. Rinse powder off dams before use. Use all barriers only once and only on one person.

Oral sex on a man without ejaculation or on a non-menstruating woman is thought to be a low risk activity. There is a risk that HIV could enter through small cuts or openings in the mouth, gums or throat; avoid brushing your teeth two hours before or after oral sex to minimize abrasions.
If you share sex toys like dildoes or vibrators, put on a fresh condom for each user (and when going from anus to vagina), or clean with bleach, alcohol, or soap and water.

Use latex gloves for "finger fucking" or fisting to guard the wearer against infection through cuts on the hand or arm, and to guard the partner against injury from fingernails.

Touching and kissing are safe. It is safe to get semen, vaginal fluid or urine on unbroken skin. No AIDS cases have been traced to kissing, including deep (French) kissing.

Precautions against AIDS can protect you from other sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, herpes, yeast infections, amoebiasis, and hepatitis B. Preventing other STDs can in turn minimize your chances of getting AIDS, since many STDs cause sores in the genital or anal area or around the mouth which can provide a path for HIV transmission.

If you have any doubts at all about your current health, or just want a little peace of mind, you should make an appointment with your physician for an HIV-Test.

Ahhh, the condom. Get it out, get it on, get going. Don't be awkward about it, or she will be, too. Keeping them nearby is a no-brainer, although having a dispenser by your bed will make her wonder. According to the women we surveyed, she'll help you put them on if you want -- anything to keep the mood going.

Hey, she doesn't want to wait for a restart either.

We leave you with this thought, and this thought only…

Safety First. Safety Always.

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